Hello!
Recently I've found out that I may have Asperger's syndrome (did some tests on the Internet).
There is one area, in which I have massive problems - relationships.
The common pattern goes like this:
1) I find some woman, which interests me.
2) We communicate, but don't get close.
3) The woman indicates that she is (or may be) interested in me as well.
Steps 1 and 2 normally work fine.
It's step 3 where all the trouble begins. I start asking myself - do I really want this woman to become my girlfriend, or wife, or friend?
In the past, there were several instances, on which I made wrong decisions of that type:
a) Once stopped dating a woman, which inspired me most, but was and is very difficult to handle.
b) For approx. 5 years two of my closest friends were female and only recently I discovered that both of them held me back (tried to convince me that I should get a normal job, a normal, boring wife and don't even try to live an interesting life). I used to consult both them on important decisions in my life.
c) On several other occasions I stopped communicating with some women and later regretted this.
In order not to repeat those past errors it makes sense to think carefully whether a particular relationship is desirable or not. But up to now I didn't make any progress in this respect (my "go-no go" decisions don't get better over time).
What can I do (e. g. what books can I read?) in order to improve my social skills with women in situations when
a) the woman starts to get interested in me and
b) there are no obvious reasons to reject her?
Thanks in advance
06 Jul 2014, 6:56 am
