No one who wants to date me is worth dating.

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DevilKisses
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05 Jul 2014, 1:50 am

I tend to attract special ed boys who live in a foster home and come from abusive families. They have absolutely nothing to offer me and I have absolutely no attraction to them. I'm not even attracted to boys in general. I like girls. I tend to like girls who are "edgy and badass" who are not in special ed and are independent. Too bad those girls don't like me. I'm just an invisible girl who's hiding in the closet.


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05 Jul 2014, 2:16 am

DevilKisses wrote:
I tend to attract special ed boys who live in a foster home and come from abusive families. They have absolutely nothing to offer me and I have absolutely no attraction to them. I'm not even attracted to boys in general. I like girls. I tend to like girls who are "edgy and badass" who are not in special ed and are independent. Too bad those girls don't like me. I'm just an invisible girl who's hiding in the closet.
one could take offence to comments like that seeing as you posted this after claiming you are similar to what im attracted to on my thread more than once



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05 Jul 2014, 3:17 am

yep I am pretty worthless. :( Can't seem to go thru with freeing the world of myself though. :'(



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05 Jul 2014, 3:17 am

I don't think it's fair to judge your dating problems off okcupid. Of course you're going to talk to a bunch of people who aren't your type.. just don't respond.


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05 Jul 2014, 3:55 am

DevilKisses wrote:
I tend to attract special ed boys who live in a foster home and come from abusive families. They have absolutely nothing to offer me and I have absolutely no attraction to them. I'm not even attracted to boys in general. I like girls. I tend to like girls who are "edgy and badass" who are not in special ed and are independent. Too bad those girls don't like me. I'm just an invisible girl who's hiding in the closet.


This is kind of a double-edged sword. You say that the type of girls you're into don't go for you, but the boys you mentioned are probably feeling the same way about themselves. Also, you may be giving off the wrong signals to these boys and they're misinterpreting those signals, thinking you're attracted to guys and not girls, or you're attracted to both. I've been on the wrong end of that stick before and it really messed me up.

As long as you keep feeling like no one you're attracted to will date you, chances are you will continue to attract other people who feel the same way about themselves. People with low self-esteem tend to flock to each other, I think


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05 Jul 2014, 5:43 am

I had a whine to mum about special ed people hitting on me, and how they're the only people who actually approach me.
Mum's response "They do it because they don't have the intelligence to realise you will say no"
Everyone, even Megan fox gets these type of guys hitting on them. Don't be discouraged.



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05 Jul 2014, 7:02 am

A lady who makes masks? Heck, I'd at least flirt with her--but I'm married! I've been a working man for 33 years.

As for DevilKisses: you're not going to like this LOL---but if you go to college/university, you'll be able to meet more girls with your orientation.



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05 Jul 2014, 9:01 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I had a whine to mum about special ed people hitting on me, and how they're the only people who actually approach me.
Mum's response "They do it because they don't have the intelligence to realise you will say no"
Everyone, even Megan fox gets these type of guys hitting on them. Don't be discouraged.


True that. When I go out on the streets I only get the occasional: 'eyyyy whaddup girrrrrrrrrrrl?' from thugs.



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05 Jul 2014, 12:04 pm

886 wrote:
I don't think it's fair to judge your dating problems off okcupid. Of course you're going to talk to a bunch of people who aren't your type.. just don't respond.

I'm talking about real life.
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DevilKisses wrote:
I tend to attract special ed boys who live in a foster home and come from abusive families. They have absolutely nothing to offer me and I have absolutely no attraction to them. I'm not even attracted to boys in general. I like girls. I tend to like girls who are "edgy and badass" who are not in special ed and are independent. Too bad those girls don't like me. I'm just an invisible girl who's hiding in the closet.


This is kind of a double-edged sword. You say that the type of girls you're into don't go for you, but the boys you mentioned are probably feeling the same way about themselves. Also, you may be giving off the wrong signals to these boys and they're misinterpreting those signals, thinking you're attracted to guys and not girls, or you're attracted to both. I've been on the wrong end of that stick before and it really messed me up.

As long as you keep feeling like no one you're attracted to will date you, chances are you will continue to attract other people who feel the same way about themselves. People with low self-esteem tend to flock to each other, I think

I probably am giving off the wrong signals. I try my best not to, but I can't help it.


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05 Jul 2014, 12:36 pm

I'm not sure it's just signals. I think most people tend to assume that other people are straight unless they are told otherwise. So these guys probably thought "Nice girl, let's ask her out" before considering that she might not be straight. Likewise: other lesbian/bisexual girls might not now you are too. I don't know how gay people find that out about each other really.



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05 Jul 2014, 12:56 pm

trollcatman wrote:
I'm not sure it's just signals. I think most people tend to assume that other people are straight unless they are told otherwise. So these guys probably thought "Nice girl, let's ask her out" before considering that she might not be straight. Likewise: other lesbian/bisexual girls might not now you are too. I don't know how gay people find that out about each other really.

It's not just about sexual orientation. If I were straight, I still probably wouldn't want to date those guys. I would probably want to date some sexy guy in a band or a sexy non-special ed computer geek.


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05 Jul 2014, 1:03 pm

Well, in any case they found you attractive so there's a good chance other people will too. In your other thread where you posted a picture some people called you good looking. Looks are not everything of course but it helps.



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05 Jul 2014, 3:31 pm

Maybe it's you.



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05 Jul 2014, 4:24 pm

DevilKisses wrote:
I tend to attract special ed boys who live in a foster home and come from abusive families. They have absolutely nothing to offer me and I have absolutely no attraction to them. I'm not even attracted to boys in general. I like girls. I tend to like girls who are "edgy and badass" who are not in special ed and are independent. Too bad those girls don't like me. I'm just an invisible girl who's hiding in the closet.


What do you have to offer the girls you like? Try to find this out, and strive to improve yourself in fields that actually matter to the girls you want. Don't expect to get girls who are attractive unless you are attractive yourself.

Edit: Back in high school, there was a special ed. girl (mild mental retardation) who fancied me and a lot of other boys. She'd frequently hit on boys she didn't know in the cafeteria. It doesn't have to mean that there's anything wrong with you.


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07 Jul 2014, 12:57 am

DevilKisses wrote:
I tend to attract special ed boys who live in a foster home and come from abusive families. They have absolutely nothing to offer me and I have absolutely no attraction to them. I'm not even attracted to boys in general. I like girls. I tend to like girls who are "edgy and badass" who are not in special ed and are independent. Too bad those girls don't like me. I'm just an invisible girl who's hiding in the closet.


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I had a whine to mum about special ed people hitting on me, and how they're the only people who actually approach me.
Mum's response "They do it because they don't have the intelligence to realise you will say no"
Everyone, even Megan fox gets these type of guys hitting on them. Don't be discouraged.


Is it just me, or is there in these posts a strong implication that a large and not very well defined set of males (what exactly counts as ?special ed??; I?m probably one of those) simply have no business in the dating world, no matter what they do in their whole lives, so they should know better than to try and just give up, or worse? In fact, it seems to irk you both that they won?t. The latter message sounds to me like, ?If you?re smart, you?ll know better than to approach me [and probably any woman at all]?.

It?s hardly the first time I?ve found this kind of view. On the other hand, DevilKisses, as it?s been already pointed out, the girls you like probably feel towards you the same way you do towards the boys who hit on you, so they most likely find you no more ?worth dating? and are no less annoyed because the likes of you won?t give up on dating for life. Noöne has even suggested you should give up, though, but you?re actually getting advice on how to keep trying.

Not everyone at your age has even a chance to be in the dating market (I?m not even talking about succeeding in it), as has been made patent in other threads, especially not being straight?or pretending to be. If you ask me, you should cherish that privilege.


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07 Jul 2014, 1:45 pm

It's hard to describe what "special ed" is. Usually guys who are in special ed and have some mental disabilities that affect their personality. I once met this guy who was in special ed for some reading problems. His personality was pretty normal, so I wouldn't call him a "special ed" guy.

My ex boyfriend is a special ed guy. He has reading problems as well, but his personality is a bit off. I'm still friends with him. When I talk to him I always feel like he's "living in a different world" than me. That's another characteristic of special ed guys.


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