Can an Aspie be like this?

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I have been diagnosed with Asperger's due to severe social and worldly problems. However, I am so unlike Asperger's in some ways. I am just wondering here if I can still be classified "Asperger" with the differences I have from them.

Here I will give one aspect of me which I fear separates me from Asperger. If you think it is compatible, please let me know.



1. Once I am accepted as the personal friend of someone I like, that person becomes the most important aspect of my life; they always will come first. I can get very close, caring, warm, and affectionate with them. I am always there for them. The "coldness" I hear about aspies is the complete reverse for me.

My severe social problems has to do with having a very different mind from NTs, like we are from different planets. I cannot share superficially with them. My interests and orientation to life and reality itself is deeply different from them. However, this is only a problem between strangers, not close friends. I am a very poor stranger, since we have nothing superficial in common. I am also extremely shy. As close friends there may still be a problem of sharing mutual worldly interests, but there would be no problem with the personal part; they would very much feel loved.

However, sex, in the post-pubescent sense, is completely alien to me; it never developed in me, and it has no meaning to me. I can be very intimate and romantic, but I am totally non-sexual. This non-sexuality has nothing to do with intimacy issues, my brain just never changed since early childhood.

If this is not compatible with Asperger, there definitely is no other category in the DSM or ICD for me; I must be either classified "Asperger" or I am out of the DSM or ICD, even though my problems are severe.

Certainly seems like something to meditate upon, though I think most of us are more comfortable around others than we're ever willing to admit. The more one is affected by AS, the more everyone else notices it, we aren't solely discussing your reflexes.

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Diagnosis is just the subjective opinion of your psychiatrist based on his medical training. Someone else might diagnose you differently. It sounds like you've done a lot of reading up on different mental illnesses. If you feel that you fit nothing in there, then I don't know what to say. I'm just the opposite. When I read about different conditions, I find a piece of myself in all of them.

Many of us have people we are comfortable with and put before anything else. For me it's my mom. When I trust someone they become very important to me. But I am still an aspie. Many of us feel closeness to others, the coldness you hear so much about is the N.T. perception of us based on our inability to always show our affection in a way they can recognize.

Just because I'd catch a bullet for my mom or baby brother doesn't mean they know it. Mom has spent the past three decades coaching me to say "I love you too." I never am the originator of the phrase, I only parrot it back to her. I feel it, but I don't say or really show it. That's were the" coolness" comes from. Not what we feel, but what they see.

I get super attached to people, like the OP. Also, I felt asexual for years after I was an adult. I guess I was just a late bloomer because that did eventually change.

I am an Autistic person who needs people, mostly other Autsitic people. { I don't need people who treat me 'less than."]

I am also atypical because I am extroverted[sometimes] Basically, what this means is that not only do I annoy NTs' but many other Autistics as well.

From your descriptions, Zylon, I think you might be an aspie. There is a lot of variety among aspies, they are not all "textbook" stereotypes.