What went wrong?

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This was a long time ago (2006/2007) but I feel the need to go over it again.

There was this girl who was in one of my classes and before she did smile at me nicely in one of my classes but I never really spoke to her before and i did go to school with her but again i never really knew her. She approached me after college one night and asked "my dad can't pick me up can I walk with you to the train station." I then said to her "yeah sure" we chatted away as we walked to the station and I also walked with her on my way home.

After the Christina's holidays we talked at college and she asked me a lot of questions about myself and we did talk after class. However as the months moved on she became less friendly with me and eventually she stopped talking to me around may 2007. We first started talking in December 2006.



I could tell she fancied me and wanted to be in a relationship with me when i first talked to her but yet the encounter I had with her after college led to nothing not even a date to the movies. She is now married with a husband.

How come we did not become girlfriend and boyfriend I thought she really liked me and it was meant to be?


I have Aspergers by the way

Love is very fickle sometimes. There's lots of luck involved, too.

I would bet that it wasn't you; it wasn't even her. People just lose interest in each other, for whatever reason.

I could understand your feelings, though. There seemed an opportunity for happiness there.

Life is like that. You'll find somebody soon.

I know how you feel. I felt similar to you for a long time.

The thing is: never develop an ideology whereby you believe you'll never find somebody. That will ensure that you will never find somebody.

I've had girls I've liked, we seemed to click, then we drifted apart.

Wouldn't it be nice to have a relationship that you don't have to "manage it?" LOL

Wouldn't it be nice for everything to come naturally between the guy and the girl, without having to "manage it?"

I believe ultimate compatibility dispenses with the need to "manage" anything. Just be into each other!

Anyway...don't give up.

Well...there isn't really any way to know whether she wanted a relationship with you, Jamesy. Smiling at you, talking with you, and asking you to accompany her to the train station at night don't necessarily mean that. It's possible that she was interested and maybe waiting for you to invite her out. But it's also possible she thought you were just nice, or sweet and a bit lonely-looking and she wanted to cheer you up with a bit of company.

Since there's absolutely no way to know, at this point, I think you should stop worrying about it.

It probably was related to you not reciprocating her interest. I've had my share of that.

she probably expected you to do something and you didn't do it.

Maybe she got to know you well enough to know that you weren't a match for her & it's as simple as that.

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Yeah. Even when I've dated girls, I still didn't get them as girlfriends.

Maybe you were on your way. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. But you still have to take the other steps.