I've been in a relationship for a really long time now with this guy that I think I love at least a little. The problem is that I know I'm in love with his best friend. He knows this and wants me to be with his best friend at some point but not now. My boyfriend has talked to him about relationships and he says he's not ready right now. In a few more years maybe he'll be ready and he wants us all to grow up a little more before he can think about a relationship with anyone. I want to tell him how I feel but honestly I feel like it would be useless. I try and break up with my boyfriend a lot because I'll think I'll be okay but then my boyfriend tells me things that he goes back on. Like when I ask him if our best friend would still hang out with me if I did break up with him. My boyfriend says things like no he wouldn't when he told me before that yes he still would last minute. An then I try and do the right thing and keep to breaking up with him but in the end I know I'd lose a man I know I defiantly love. Then I just can't do it and I try to find a reason to be with the guy that I'm with now. It was a little bit easier to do before but now then there's something else.
The best friend that I love is going to be homeless in a few months and he won't move into my house if my boyfriend and I are broken up. I can't let him be homeless and I don't know what to do. Stay with the guy I'm with now and hope that I do get the guy I want that my boyfriend says I'll probably get in the later on or break up with him now so I can just be alone?
Joined: 4 Feb 2014 Gender: Male Posts: 87,510 Location: Queens, NYC
22 Jul 2014, 8:50 am
You've gotten yourself in a real quandary about this.
Your boyfriend says "go out with my best friend," then says he wouldn't let the "best friend" stay with him if he becomes homeless. Sounds like a swell guy, really LOL
Ultimately, I wouldn't stay with a guy I don't want to stay with, darn the consequences.
21 Jul 2014, 11:32 pm
