I just found out the girl next door likes me!

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Dr_Cheeba
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21 Jul 2014, 11:47 pm

I moved back home briefly to save money. Last night I just found out the the girl next door, who I've had a crush on since high school, couldn't stop talking about me since I moved home.
I'm so excited but at the same time I'm so scared! I've had 1 serious relationship in my life.

Any advice?

I'm going over there tomorrow for dessert with some of her family and I'm so anxious that I want to bail... I'm afraid I'll be all "aspie" as usual and scare her. But this is the girl I've always wanted.


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22 Jul 2014, 3:18 am

I suggest just trying to eat dessert there like normal.

Be calm, relaxed and happy and answer any questions her or her family might ask.

Force a smile and happy voice if you have to; just let loose.

Sorry if I didn't help too much; I don't really know how to describe it.

I guess just be comfortable with how things are. These are neighborhood friends; don't think they are judging you too much because most likely if you behave okay they won't be judging you.



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22 Jul 2014, 5:11 am

Be friendly and try to set up a date with her. That way you two can get some alone time to get to know each other better. Good luck!



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22 Jul 2014, 10:06 am

Red wine exists for good reason. Namely it kept the table upright at many an historic feast!


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22 Jul 2014, 11:51 am

Invest in a camera and get some mirrors mounted to your walls and ceilings... Wait. No. No. Bad Azereiah. Don't do that.



She already likes you, so just be friendly and respectful to the parents. It'll be a little more difficult than interacting with her alone, I think, but you should have fairly little trouble with it.

Just remember not to outright disagree with them on things like politics and religion :P
"Well, of course, but you've gotta remember..." seemed to work nicely for me. As long as you're not abrasive, and you don't go off talking about any obsessions (if that part applies to you), you should be fine :>



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22 Jul 2014, 2:01 pm

Is the girl next door a "girl next door" type? Just curious.


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22 Jul 2014, 8:23 pm

Thanks for the advice guys! It ended up just being us and we talked for awhile. To be honest we haven't spoken much over the years cause I lived in another city for 6 years. But it went well! At least I think...

Now comes the "How do I hang out with her again?" stage. I'm gonna wait a couple days but f**k I am just so excited this girl that I've liked for some many years likes me back. How should I approach this if I want to do something with her? I'm not good with this....

And to answer VegtableMan, YES she is the "girl next door" type. Gorgeous as hell but also the sweetest person on earth. That's why I just always assumed she'd have no interest in me...


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22 Jul 2014, 9:41 pm

Dr_Cheeba wrote:
Thanks for the advice guys! It ended up just being us and we talked for awhile. To be honest we haven't spoken much over the years cause I lived in another city for 6 years. But it went well! At least I think...

Now comes the "How do I hang out with her again?" stage. I'm gonna wait a couple days but f**k I am just so excited this girl that I've liked for some many years likes me back. How should I approach this if I want to do something with her? I'm not good with this....

And to answer VegtableMan, YES she is the "girl next door" type. Gorgeous as hell but also the sweetest person on earth. That's why I just always assumed she'd have no interest in me...


Find a few things you'd like to do with her and a few times you're available such as (going to a restaurant, or if you can't spare the cash, going for a walk) and ask her to join you for one. Use the time to get caught up. Tell her how you've been and ask how she's been.



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22 Jul 2014, 9:47 pm

FireyInspiration wrote:
Dr_Cheeba wrote:
Thanks for the advice guys! It ended up just being us and we talked for awhile. To be honest we haven't spoken much over the years cause I lived in another city for 6 years. But it went well! At least I think...

Now comes the "How do I hang out with her again?" stage. I'm gonna wait a couple days but f**k I am just so excited this girl that I've liked for some many years likes me back. How should I approach this if I want to do something with her? I'm not good with this....

And to answer VegtableMan, YES she is the "girl next door" type. Gorgeous as hell but also the sweetest person on earth. That's why I just always assumed she'd have no interest in me...


Find a few things you'd like to do with her and a few times you're available such as (going to a restaurant, or if you can't spare the cash, going for a walk) and ask her to join you for one. Use the time to get caught up. Tell her how you've been and ask how she's been.


I was thinking of a walk actually, so I'm glad you mentioned that. I was thinking it'd be lame. And I don't want to make it an official date yet but I want to spend more time with her. Thanks!


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