A proverb for autistics?

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I found this quote today, it was on an individualist feminist message board and I saw it when looking for some opinions about gender issues. Immediately after reading it I thought "Wow, this fits my view very well. I bet some others with AS or autism will see truth in it too":

"I don't believe in working on relationships and making artificial efforts to give them substance. I believe in people being themselves and following their hearts towards whatever destiny lies before them."

Notice how he doesn't say "avoid all relationships", he says he doesn't believe in "artificial efforts to give them substance". I think some really social people spend about half their time with the opposite sex on such artificial efforts. If I really like a girl I will try my best to show it, but I don't see use it pretending the relationship means something to me that it doesn't.

Solely to avoid plagiarism, I will mention that the quote originally appeared in this article. I don't mean to say that I agree with the whole article--there are things in there I agree with and others I disagree with quite strongly.

After reading that article, I'm kind of glad I don't have good luck with finding relationships. They create unnecessary emotional stress, as well as suck the money out of your wallet faster than a vacuum cleaner. Being the rational, practical man that I am, I'm sticking to escorts. If I got an "urge" coming on, I call an agency, set up an appointment, show up, then walk away smiling. Simple, efficient, and drama-free.

Quote from Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy (the movie):

"The Encyclopedia Galactica in it's section on 'love' says that it is far too difficult to describe. The Hithciker's Guide to the Galaxy has this to say on the topic of love: avoid, if at all possible"

Why is it that so many people attempt to make love work, if it is destined to failure? Do you believe Mother Nature would create such behaviour that never brings any benefit?

They do it because their loneliness is worse makes it worthwhile. Everyone’s loneliness is at different levels. Some people feet it more then others. What works for some might not work for others.

for natures sake love only has to work long enough to breed, then child rearing mechanisms take over

i feel like loneliness = emotional hunger. some people's appetites are not as large as others. for me, having 100 friends and acquaintances just seems like overkill. but i still feel like i need to have some social contact.

I feel loneliness at times (meaning for a girlfriend; I do have friends), but I shrug it off for the most part. I get my sexual, and to a lesser extent emotional, fulfillment from escorts. About half of my friends think this is stupid, but the other half agree with this 100 percent. I'm fairly outspoken about my method, and honestly think it's the wave of the future. With people become increasingly selective in their sexual partners (girls more so than guys), escorts are becoming an increasingly viable option.

Well, I wonder if nature actually created the effort to "make it work". Nature created attraction, and the tendency to become fixated on one or a few members of the opposite sex (in some people for much longer than others). It certainly is possible to make those "work" in the sense that, provided those you are attracted to are attracted back, you can have a passionate and rewarding time together.

It seems that some people try desperately to stay together, though, even after that spark has "dissipated", and unwillingness to do that is how I interpret the quote. As I say, the quote was taken out of context by someone on a message board, and both the original author and the message board poster were discussing feminism, not anything to do with autistic behavior. I just saw the quote as meaningful to me in my own way.

Aspie Chav sez:
I feel loneliness at times (meaning for a girlfriend; I do have friends), but I shrug it off for the most part. I get my sexual, and to a lesser extent emotional, fulfillment from escorts.

to which I reply:
I couldn't do that, simply because I would absorb the human/body/mind/spirit of the escort and carry it with me for years. I bought a fabulous female orgasm machine that set me back quite a few escort fees all at once and I can use when I care to.

I used to get all romatic about it, but it really didn't matter. Now it is like you, just like the physical comfort of a good poop with all the facility of flushing the john.

Merle
(who has had far more than her share of lovers in her life)