Can a long stare bear a negetive meaning?

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What if a girl stares at me and hardly takes her eyes off me, even when I look back at her?
and what does it mean when a girl smiles and laughs in my presence? can she be surprised/emberessed or just trying to be nice?

It could mean that she is attracted to you, but it could also mean that she is looking at you with great suspicion.

A stare can mean many things.

Tim

It can mean she has AS

Unfortunately it can be hard to tell sometimes by just looking at eyes to tell someones intent (usually more visual cues help give it away but mere looking isn't as definitive or nearly as helpful in ALL situations) but were going to break down her facial expressions and see if we come up with something, okay (btw this post will sound similar to a post i had made on another thread but i'm changing it a bit for you)?
Think really hard here:
A) Was she squinting at you deeply and smiling (squinting, unless she had an eye problem which would be more than inopportuned, usually is a sign of disinterest and could mean that she might've been making fun of you)
B) Is she smiling and gazing at you in a longing way (meaning is she sometimes staring at you with her jaw dropped and her eyes are warmly stuck on you? This means that she isn't afraid to show her vulnerable side to you and wants you to be responsive by looking at back her)
C) Is she jsut smiling warmly at you her eyes appearing to look normal (this can be the platonic look like she just might consider you a friend)
D) Is she smiling with her eyebrows raised (this to me is always a good sign because it indicates surprise but extreme interest in your prescence)
E) Does she stare at you in a blank and vacant way almost as if she isn't really thinking but just staring (this also indicated interest in an individual because all they are focused on is you- they aren't even in tune to the world around them)

I know that might be a lot to decipher but next time she stares take small notes (mentally or on paper) and try to read her. I know when I stare at someone its rarely because i don't want to see him and its usually a GOOD sign so lets think that unless were Subconsciously (if someone is staring at you) then its because deep down inside they want to take in more of you (same reason why dilated pupils are a deifnitive sign that someone likes
you- then want to take in as much of you as possible.

Also note these as well:
1) Does she look at you quickly at times and turn away very suddenly?
2) Does she go out of her way to look at you and be around you in any way?

Also as far as her laughing is she laughing loudly or louder than she should given the situation at hand? If she is its usually because she wants you to notice her (especially if shes looking out the corner of her eye while shes laughing.

I think the only time its friendly if the person looks at you and nothing more... and certainly not all the time. Just take some more time to observe before you make a move just to save yourself some heartache. But i think you've certainly got a great start- btw, how do you feel about her? Do you like her or at least how do you feel inside about her?

well it was definitely E) the blank stare. a very deep, focused stare. at first I thought she was actually looking behind me at some bloke who sat near by or something but no she was looking straight at me.

when I looked back at her she * didn't turn away, ho no, we were looking at each other for 3-4 seconds before I had to turn my eyes away *

It was a bit strange I must admit... she usually seems so shy and introverted.

Anyway thanks for all your replies. I'll keep you updated of any developments.

Caramel...I was gonna reply but you pretty much outlined the lot of it You and I could be a dangerous pair on these forums, between the two of us we might just be able to decode body language into a definable format




If she stares you right in the eyes after blatantly being caught staring...that's quite unusual. I'd say she was begging for contact with that. If I blatantly stare at someone, I'm non-verbally demanding them to say something. Usually it's initiated with a smile and a 'hey there'. Might be worth testing the waters when she does that...give her a friendly smile, gaze a bit, and if nothing comes of it continue on. Show her you're not afraid of her, and that if she wants to actually say something she's welcome to (presuming she is...you don't mind if she does, right?)

Smiling and laughing in your presence...man that's what I do when I have a bigass crush on someone but haven't got the bravado to just go and say hi If she was laughing in a nasty way, she would probably swiftly follow it up with a prank etc...if people are gonna be cruel, they laugh about it as they enjoy actually doing something nasty I'd rule out negative laughs...I'd make a guesstimate of shy giggle here.

For me all signs point towards her having a bit of a crush on you This is what I'm like when I've got a crush on someone. Investigate this cautiously and calmly though, if she does then she'll be just a little fragile when it comes to dealings with you until she's SURE you feel the same as her...

I had a similar thing happen to me the other day. I was sitting in class staring at the clock as I usually do when I suddenly got the feeling I was being watched. I sneakily tilted my head to the side and pretended to read what was written on the blackboard when I noticed a girl staring in my direction using my peripheral vision. Immediately I panicked, assuming that something was wrong with my hair or that I had something on my face. I did not look back but instead waited a few seconds until she turned away. I checked to see if I was in order, which I was. A few seconds later I noticed the same person staring at me again. This time I swiveled my head around to look at the calender, leveling my eyes so that they would meet hers as I turned. I only saw her face for a split second, but sure enough she was indeed staring at me. She looked away as soon as we made eye contact.

I've never been more confused in my life! I have attended classes with this person for almost 4 years and she's never said a word to me, and now out of nowhere she's staring at me! This makes no sense at all.

Maybe she likes you.

That seems highly unlikely considering she knows nothing about me!

What if she just thinks you're good-looking? That's a good enough reason to have the hots for someone.

Todd489, as i've observed, rarely do we actually know the people we like- its more usual to like and be attracted to the unknown-and it can be as late as 4 years from intially meeting someone to 5 minutes after. It really depends on the person usually but like the guy at my job- i liked him the moment we first talked and the conversation was literally about nothing. at. all so its certainly possible or she might've liked you the whole time and felt that "carrying a torch for you" was more easier than telling you.

lol and i think it was cute how you reacted- i know i get a little paranoid some times. Ive never so much believed myself to be the "greatest catch" but people are attracted to different things. I think if this continues and is repetitive (like she continues to do it and the frequency of it all raises) then you've certainly got someone whos more than probably interested in you. lets see if i can come up with an equation- i'm no math genius by any stretch but maybe this is a good thing to remember? we'll see lol:

eye contact+ higher or gradually raised frequency+ the use of other visual/verbal cues = indicative of possible attraction/interest.
Don't be confused- just be more observant! Take notice of how she acts around you, if she starts to display other signs of interest, I've carried similar torches for people for a long time so it is possible. But i'm guessing (although you've might not have thought of it this way) you've never thought of or had feelings for her? Would you be intrigued at all by her feelings if she were to be interested in you? Take some strong consideration in how she might feel but how you feel also while you assess the situation...

Hmm i'd think the depth of the stare equates to her actually thinking deep or intense thoughts about you so you can tell that perhaps you were someone she had thought about in that way before and

The blank stare? Very good indication, i'd most definitely say. To me that look is always the "i'm so deeply lost in my thoughts of you and want you so very badly that i can't help but intensely think about you"- that means shes graduated from the intial "random look and just smile" phase so perhaps she's had these feelings for more than a few weeks already and has merely been stealing looks of you and she must feel really deeply about you because she's not afraid to let you catch her staring at you so she must really want to make it blatant to you that she feels something. don't you just love those long drawn out stares from out of nowhere?

It was strange but did you like how (after intial paranoia) it felt? I think the shy ones are exactly the ones who exhibit that behavior. We're far to afraid to actually make a move ourselves so we settle for the road less traveled and like to indicate interest in a more mild and less risky form. The more bold of us don't mind openly confessing how we feel but the majority of us like to keep it a nicely kept secret to avoid embarassment or any other type of situation that could potentially have less than positive results.

It could also mean there's something on your face.

lol we should play tag-team matches with the threads. I find we're both saying what the other is trying to get across too! lol... we certainly could be dangerous-- Perhaps we know all too well about all these body language cues! lol...
it is quite unusual!! I'd say she was definitely trying to grab your attention and make her intents known by that... I think that point needs to be stressed the most. If you're interested but a little shy you could scare her off either by not intiating any contact (not at least returning her looks) or by not showing any additional interest (perhaps by smiling or something similar) she might believe you're not really all that interested.

lol and as far as the smiling and laughing bit? I totally do the same thing!! When i like someone i can't help but smile at them (especially if i see them most unexpectedly) and laughing (and when i laugh its not just a regular laugh i laugh louder and a bit more squeaky and feminine) i guess because i'm subconsciously attempting to get them to notice me through it. Its definitely to draw attention so you'd attempt to communicate with her so take it as a positive. Shale is right- if she meant it in a demeaning way, she would've followed that with a sneer or some other negative indication that you surely would've noticed. I'd make a guess she had what Shale said- a shy giggle accompanied by a coy smile.... strongly flirtatious just not overly done.

I'd definitely be safe in saying she feels a positive way about you and that she actually has a crush on you as well. lol she sounds so steriotypically NT its ridiculous, lol! Definitely give a signal of interest (if in fact you are) but have them be slight. You don't want to frighten her by being too overpowering and you don't want to come off like someone who "just doesn't get it" so take it slow - as she gives more positive signs intiate her with positive signals- always testing the waters to be sure. Just so you know you're doing it right remember to be gradual and as she progresses and gives higher indications of interest progress in a similar fashion....

and this is what happens when I leave for a long time.

Hey Caramel.

hows it going elder "sister?"

Okay. Seriously. Gamester, I think you need to make sidekicks out of us two Hahaha...

Bloody hell Caramel you're good at covering the bases there Notice how everything we already sorta knew is a WHOLE lot clearer when we actually have to verbalise it here? This is so awesome...saying it all brings it out of hiding in the subconscious