Only so many chances!

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My brother has a history of rejecting girls that 'like him' cause he is picky. My mum said to my brother last night.....

"You will live to regret turning girls down because in life you only get so many chances"

What did my mum mean by "you only get so many chances?"

Last edited by Jamesy on 27 Aug 2014, 1:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.

That he will be old some day.

What's being old got to do with it?

She's talking of some kind of "karma."
She's wrong.

She's either saying:

1. The "right girl" for somebody (including your brother) doesn't come too frequently, and that he is missing is chance to marry the " right girl." It is possible that your mother might believe that the "right girl" has already come, and that your brother missed his chance of happiness through marriage to this "right girl."

2. That the longer he waits to pick a girl to marry, the less chance he will have to marry someone, owing to his advancing age.

Love and beauty are fleeting...

This.

Well I said 2.

Maybe she means these things, but she'd be wrong on both of these too.
1. The right girl will short out his brain like 10pm on the 4th of July (in America) and it'll give him no choice but to go cockywhompers over her.
2. Men get more attractive over time, mostly and generally speaking.

(Karma that keeps track of how many chances you're "owed," and how to damage (or reward) your life in highly ironic ways, or that because he made these women become older w/out marriage he'll be owed a reduced count of opportunity to make him old or some such cosmic balance sheet.)

Last edited by 1401b on 27 Aug 2014, 3:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.

It sounds a little bit like your mother wanting him to settle. Your brother may actually know what he wants as well.

Well if he rejects everyone who comes along then they will go and pair up with someone else and when he is ready to settle down there will be no one left to pair up with because there's no one left.

But that may not happen. He's just not met the right person yet. But Mom's are like that. They worry you won't find anyone. My Aunts are all like that too. They seem to get in a mad panic about trying to pair everyone up.

^ Why always the Aunts...?

urgh, with Jews all you need is another Jew and you've got a matchmaking service whether you called for one or not. (One poor lady just wouldn't give up on me. She married a doctor and figures that's all anyone needs in life, kept trying to set me up with these young docs who wouldn't want me even if I wanted them. The last one turned out to be a serial domestic-abuse perpetrator, restraining orders, etc.)

While I'm sure that some men get better with age, no doubt including present company, I (cough) must decline to say that my travels in the online dating world confirm the theory.

How old is your brother? How many girls have 'liked' him? What, specifically, prompted him to reject the girls that were 'into' him?

I'd need more information to take a better stab at what, exactly, your mum meant by 'only so many chances' -- the answer differs a TON based on whether your brother is 15 or 43 or 27.


(The late, great WaPo editor Katherine Grahamn used to say that age is the single most telling fact about a person... for example, there is SO much in a single sentence that begins "the CEO of FancyPants, Inc, 87, and his new bride, 23, were married on Saturday on a private island...".

I don't know. My parents let me do my own thing and have never given me any hassle about relationships,my friends don't even ask me about it, but I think my aunts think that my parents have screwed me up and I'm not being normal and are concerned for me. I don't think they like my lifestyle choices. Every freaking time I see them it comes up.. "so have you met someone yet?"