A triumph and yet another failure

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Yesterday I had to make a rather long bus drive and there was this girl on the bus who looked a lot like a girl I was in love with in the past. I was charmed right away but did not know how to approach her or start a conversation. However, I somehow grabbed my guts together and opened a conversation. Must have been one of the first times ever that I dared to approach a girl myself... That was a really hard thing to do, however it was very rewarding. It appeared it was a gothic fan as well, she loved travelling as well, and she was really really cute. We had a long conversation but as the bus arrived at destination I didn't dare to ask her email address.

Damn how much I already regret that. I messed up so badly... She's been crossing my mind all day and I regret so much that I did not ask her email address. Why do I always mess up everytime I meet a nice girl? OK, it was a big step already to start conversation myself, but that does not really make a lot of difference in the end, does it? I seem to just wait for a nice girl to cross my path, and everytime when it happens (not that it happens that often) I mess up myself.

The weird thing is, I do know when she will be taking that same bus again, but if I wait for her by the bus stop without having to take that bus myself, I doubt if that will make a good impression. Guess I will have to just erase the whole memory, but that is easier said than done. Sorry if I sound pathetic, I probably am (it's my own fault after all that I didn't dare to ask her mail)

learn and move on .

What have you got to lose? You could wait for her, and explain that you had really enjoyed the journey with her yesterday and after you parted you had been kicking yourself for not asking for her email address, and see what she says. If she backs off, you've lost nothing as you're already cursing yourself for not asking for her. On the other hand, she may give you her address....

Either way, congratulations on getting up the nerve to speak to her in the first place

We've all done something like this before. Maybe you didn't ask for her email address because you realized that it might not have been appropriate to do so, YET . . .

If you have cause to take that bus again, when she may be also taking that bus, if you have yet another good conversation, THEN it would be perfectly appropriate to ask for her email address (or her Instant Message ID, if you or she does that).

Good luck, and may you two bump into each other again sometime!

Kris

keep your head up and dont be so hard n yourself. Mistakes are bound to happen, you are only humman. Just learn from your mistakes and keep them in mind the next time around.

Hey, at least you are improving. Learning how to approach and be natural around women is very important. You can't really expect to have any success without it...

I'm in a similar state, I just can't get up the nerve to ask women for contact information or hang out or go on a date...

The timing needs to be perfect, and it never works out. I know this is just one more barrier I have to break through... but pushing forward that little bit is very hard to do.

Don't worry about not getting this girls number too much, if you see her again... then by all means try get an email address. Don't worry if it's not appropriate, you don't have time to make it "perfect"... and not doing anything means nothing'll happen anyways.

But just push forward, and try talking with more girls...

I'd just forget it and take the chance you get if you ever get on the same bus as she..

Don't try to force such an event (by waiting up for her), just let luck make it's move.

Grabbed my guts together and went to the bus station to wait for her. She wasn't there... probably changed her travel itinary and has taken another bus. This really sucks. I do know where she often drinks but that pub is 9 hours driving from here and then I am not even sure what days she goes to that pub, so to try that route is a bit unlikely I guess. Another opportunity wasted, if only I had asked for her contact details during that bus ride last week. Stupid me...