How to find girlfriend with common interests?

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I am 27 years now and I've discovered that finding a girlfriend who has more or less same interests with you is quite difficult.
For me it;s important to have common topics to talk about because I'm too far away from what majority of people like to do - I don't know much about cars, modern music and movies, sports, art, fashion, hate night clubs and disco, doesn't drink or smoke and so on - it could be long list here.
Instead I have strong interests in cultural and military history, political science, philosophy. Like guys around in my office chat about recent soccer match or new Audi model presented , so I can talk about topics like political influence of islam or shooting accuracy in Seven years war. Although I live in city with almost 10 milions of people there are no history clubs or something like that - only male-only clubs where members wear armor or uniform and reconstruct particular war or battle so as with philosophy clubs. In bookstores there are also almost men in sections of history or political literature. In my country such things are not so popular as in America for example - if judge by number of clubs and volunteer organizations in these fields.
So could anybody advise me what to do? I have no more ideas.
Last time I dated girl 4 years ago so as you understand I have no outstanding dating skills as possibly many people on this forum. In general I'm not so awkwarded but I never participate in small talks which looks useless for me and have just few friends.

Thanks for your answer

Now I have no money for uni, but next year I'm going (hope it would success...) to go to United States for political science degree. But this is almost a year and I'm trying to find something now.

I tried once to start a group but realized that I'm not good at organizing and even worser in moderating discussion, or else visitors were just drinking beer and talking with those who they already know on anything from cars to sport. And anyway there were no girls at all.

Maybe there are already some such groups but I failed to find anything about them via google, facebook or friends. So even if they are present they seems not to wait for new members.

And there are no political campaigns in my country. There is ruling party which supresses and imprisones everybody who has some political influence and doesn't join it.

I have similar interests I love history, miliary history/ww2/ww1/korea/roman. I have gotten into politics sadly. I love guns and shooting. its a mechanical thing. I like videogames, and zippos.

I've met one woman who like videgames, cars, guns, history. one woman out of thousands i've met.
I don't hold hope to finding a woman who shares my interests.

though on history there are tons of women who would share that.

only advice I have is tryi okc and pof look for women who mention similar interests on their profiles. they are out there.
for me it's hard, cause women who tend to like history tend to be anti gun. history majors in general are left leaning.
if youd don't have that downside then it should be easier ,note though most people don't' like talking about politics, ie the

Hey Sly,

You're a cool guy. All you need is perspective. The internet is NOT the real world.

I'm glad you're still posting here, and offering your input. Don't let what people say get you down.

It's still not the real world. It's just a bunch of people typing their thoughts onto computer screens, usually without SEEING the person they are "talking" to.

You're not WITH the person or people.

On the internet, people are able to exude more "bitchiness" than they are able to in real life because of the (quite significant)aspect of anonymity. They are able to exude Mr. Hyde--while, in the actual company of a person, they are forced to make use of their Dr. Jekyl aspect.