Are all the good ones REALLY taken by 27?

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how screwed am I? I'm 25 and have only been in one relationship, with a girl who was a closet lesbian, and one ONS. I'm scared I won't be able to hide my inexperience with women, and I'm being left in the dust by my high school and college classmates. How many more years of dating should I get before I have enough experience to know if I wanna marry someone??

Yes. Also, as women, we all turn into wrinkly, fat hags on our 30th birthday.

I'm a man who sees beauty in graceful experience.

It's not over for you yet! Just amble your way into a new phase in your life, where you could relate to ladies as adults, debate like adults. I'm not a very tall man myself: 5 foot 4 3/4. After a while, most women see beyond the height or the supposed physical attributes of height, and look for more depth in a man.

Don't forget: Stephen Hawking, despite being virtually immobile, has entranced women. In fact, he's been rather a roué at times. LOL

I do find that the pool seems to dwindle down after 25 or so. Most of the women my age seem to either be in a relationship, single moms, recently divorced, or what I refer to as "dating perfectionists" (the ones who have 15-page long lists of requirements that any potential partner must meet).

The vast majority of women I've dated have been a few years younger than me because of those reasons.

I doubt all good men or women are taken by 27. I do think that a large number of people who are capable of and want healthy, long-term relationships will pair off in their 20's, but many will remain because they were shy, needed extra time to grow up, were involved with someone, were busy traveling, or any number of things.

My s/o was 28 when we met. I had to lure him out of hiding and gain his trust with poutine.

I don't think marriage is experience-based, by the way. There are no Casanovas in my family, but almost all the men are married. If you have a steady relationship with someone and agree on the kind of life you want to lead together, do you need to know whether you prefer blondes to brunettes or have a large selection of sexual moves gained from hands-on experience?

Someone...please gain my trust with Steak and Pasta!! !! !! !! !!

Your inexperience is why you question. If when you are around 30, if you are a decent person and have a job you will not be single. You should be pretty concerned with your career at this point in your life. Establish your self in some way, you have 5 years to do that before you are 30. Good luck.

If you are still inexperienced then just try to have fun enjoying the pleasures of women before you are 30. After that girls are less interested in being impressed and more interested in some with a stable life.

I met the Missus when I was 30. We dated for 2 years, then were engaged for 6 months.

There are still plenty of eligible women after the age of 25, do be realistic.

Around here, the average age for a starter marriage is closer to 35 or 40.

short answer: no, they're not.

There are plenty of "good" women who are unmarried by 27. But yes, most of the great ones are taken by 27, if not in a marriage, then in a long term relationship. That doesn't mean finding a relationship will be harder, it just means that the idealized starting a family kind of marriage is less likely. There are lots of women who feel the same way you do. Just pursue your interests and you will find them. Promise.

25 is so young. I was only 20 the first time I married. I was definitely too young, but we struggled through the marriage until his death 18 and a half years later. A year after Larry died, I met Bobby. I was nearly 40 years old. Bobby is younger than I am,but was old enough to know what he needed, what he wanted, and what he could offer to a relationship [ I am third wife] I knew the same thing.

Bobby and Larry. TOTALLY different types of men. When I was 20, I would NEVER have fallen for someone like Bobby. EVER. At 39, I knew to avoid someone like Larry like the plague [no offense, Babe, if you're watching me type from another dimension...but...you know]

25 is a nice age to start thinking about what you can offer when you are a little more mature. It's a nice time for building that career, maybe making plans to buy that house. It's a nice time to be working on being the man you want to be and figuring out what you need and desire in a woman. [ one who wants kids? whatever, this is one thing you need to be on the same page on. And, about a thousand other things]

You also need to be at a place where you are comfortable with being single. And what compromises you will make. And when the time is right, so long as you have done your homework, it'll happen.