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i have trust issues too mainly due to the way people have tret me in the past and the way they are with me i can tell there not trustworthy but i do nothing 
think its time for me to start hurting people too it might sound bad but itll be better for me i think
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25 Aug 2012, 12:33 pm
chazz wrote:
"To love at all is to be vulnerable."
yah i think i know what you mean but then i feel so vulnerable that i am afraid it might not be the right thing! I don't know if i should just tell the guy that i like him cause i feel like that makes me vulnerable and i feel like people use you when you are vulnerable...
yah i think i know what you mean but then i feel so vulnerable that i am afraid it might not be the right thing! I don't know if i should just tell the guy that i like him cause i feel like that makes me vulnerable and i feel like people use you when you are vulnerable...
If you have to, work out what you need to know about the guy... Work out a way of finding out whether he's trust worthy. I saw something a few days on wp regarding the way girls play games with guys....
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WHY WOMEN PLAY GAME
Women will often play games with men on the dating field. Sometimes they will try to make a guy jealous on purpose by talking to other guys, sometimes they may show interest and then suddenly appear to not show interest like i previously said, and sometimes on some extremes may make plans with you but may come late or even back out. They will do this often when your first meeting a potential mate but it happens during a long term relationships too and the reason is the same. Now you are probably wondering, what is the reason? why do women play games? The answer is simple, 1) women want to know that they are attractive 2) they want to know if the person they like likes them. Women will often go into great lengths to see weather guys like them and use different ways to try to experiment to see how if guys truly does like them. So as a way to find they play games as a way to test that.....basically to test a guy in seeing if they truly are interested in them. As you all know, actions speak louder then words. One example I previously mentioned in the first paragraph, when a girl at a bar shows interest in you but then suddenly runs off to talk to other people and your wondering what the heck just happened, she is actually seeing if you will now come to chase her....to see if you REALLY are interested in her. In other words when a women plays a game it is often a good thing, it often means the girl does like you. They are trying to see if you will then initiate the next move to make the interaction go further. So next time if a girl talks to you at a bar or any place and seems to show interest or is seeming to mess with your mind, understand it is probably not because they don't like you but it's the opposite. There are some occasions however a girl may not like you but will still flirt with you. They may do that for the same reason....to see if they are attractive. They also like the thrill of being chased by men because that will make them know that they are attractive. One way to tell if this is happening and that they are not interested in you is if you try to pursue them and you get rejected almost immediatly.... they will not be interested in wanting to continue to talk to you while ones that are will (keep in mind that interested ones will sometimes make you have to try several attempts to chase them, i often call these hard to get kind of girls). I hope this helps clarifies some misunderstanding about game playing.
Women will often play games with men on the dating field. Sometimes they will try to make a guy jealous on purpose by talking to other guys, sometimes they may show interest and then suddenly appear to not show interest like i previously said, and sometimes on some extremes may make plans with you but may come late or even back out. They will do this often when your first meeting a potential mate but it happens during a long term relationships too and the reason is the same. Now you are probably wondering, what is the reason? why do women play games? The answer is simple, 1) women want to know that they are attractive 2) they want to know if the person they like likes them. Women will often go into great lengths to see weather guys like them and use different ways to try to experiment to see how if guys truly does like them. So as a way to find they play games as a way to test that.....basically to test a guy in seeing if they truly are interested in them. As you all know, actions speak louder then words. One example I previously mentioned in the first paragraph, when a girl at a bar shows interest in you but then suddenly runs off to talk to other people and your wondering what the heck just happened, she is actually seeing if you will now come to chase her....to see if you REALLY are interested in her. In other words when a women plays a game it is often a good thing, it often means the girl does like you. They are trying to see if you will then initiate the next move to make the interaction go further. So next time if a girl talks to you at a bar or any place and seems to show interest or is seeming to mess with your mind, understand it is probably not because they don't like you but it's the opposite. There are some occasions however a girl may not like you but will still flirt with you. They may do that for the same reason....to see if they are attractive. They also like the thrill of being chased by men because that will make them know that they are attractive. One way to tell if this is happening and that they are not interested in you is if you try to pursue them and you get rejected almost immediatly.... they will not be interested in wanting to continue to talk to you while ones that are will (keep in mind that interested ones will sometimes make you have to try several attempts to chase them, i often call these hard to get kind of girls). I hope this helps clarifies some misunderstanding about game playing.
Maybe, as much as you dislike it, games are just needed up to a point.
Except, you've already played the game right? Even if it was unintentionally. You already pushed him away and he came back. Could his waiting for you actually be the proof you're after ? He can be trusted right?
So end the games, tell him you like him. He's made himself vulnerable for you by telling you what he told you... So return the favor. Go out on a limb for him, tell him. Seems like a pretty safe bet
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25 Aug 2012, 1:00 pm
25 Aug 2012, 1:26 pm
chazz wrote:
Isn't there some possibility for us to 'treat' this trust issue?!?
Trust will come as you gain confidence with the situation. And you'll get that through communication.
Just be blunt... If you're feeling insecure, tell him. That's just what working things out is, talking about everything.
And if he likes you it probably already turns out that he's inclined to go about things the same way that you need things to be gone about anyway. Like attracts like after all. So don't worry so much, just talk, if it was meant to be it'll work out, if it's not meant to be you'll find out where things aren't going to work through talking and you'll be able to move on.
And btw, consider something. You're in such a good position. You've found someone. Be more positive, the hard part was finding him, browse these forums a little and see what the usual situation is and you'd realise that. Exciting times are here
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25 Aug 2012, 2:44 pm
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