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Posted by Billie Fitzpatrick

"In 'Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both,' her just published book, Laura Sessions Stepp examines the current cultural trend of hooking up. As she says, hooking up, 'in the minds of this generation, carries no commitment. Partners hook up with the understanding that however far they go sexually, neither should become romantically involved in any serious way. Hooking up's defining characteristic is the ability to unhook from a partner at any time, just as they might delete an old song on their iPod or an ­out-­of-­date "away" message on their computer.'"

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I saw something about this on the Today show. What I heard made my stomach churn in a most painful manner. I'd never hook up, and I wouldn't marry anyone who's hooked up in the past. Simple as that.

Simple answer...no, no matter how desperate I felt for it. I think sex has become a throwaway commodity like so many other things these days. I am of the sort who believes it should be taken as something almost sacred, going hand in hand with all other levels of love. On its own, it is simply lust.

You are right,sex is so casual these days and many people seem to think that promiscuity is acceptable.Humanism is to thank for that.

No matter what people claim, one of the two people involved will likely feel something the next day, be it guilt, attachment, or otherwise.

There's no free lunch.

Bingo.

How do you remain that detached? I have to have some sort of connection with someone before I even get that far anyways.

I'm very much into hooking up, and if I had better looks and better skills, I'd be doing it as much as I can. Sadly, my skills are sorely lacking and my face looks like Frankenstein's backside. So most of my hook-ups have been with escorts. It's simple, quick, and efficient, but since it gets expensive, I don't do it as much as I'd like.

When I walk out of the hotel where I "met" the escort, I feel very little attachment, other than "damn, she was good" thoughts. Although one time, an escort recommended me a really nice sports bar, where I still go from time to time. Then again, it's probably a result of me becoming cold and bitter from not having a girlfriend until age 23, but who cares.

if two consenting adults wanna do it, there shouldnt be a problem. i can only really see it being a problem if your religious or something.

People can do it but lets discuss sexual disease and abortions and the amount of people crying, moaning, and whining over those things.

Now, I think if people want to go around and **** whatever they want, they can go ahead, but I really dont want to hear how 'aids' or 'the clap' is rampant in society. I also don't want to pay a damn dime towards any of these problems. These are 100% preventable and what pisses me off is that they continue to exist. People having babies, people obtaining sexual diseases, etc.

Its not just 'people having sex' but the amount of 'issues' requiring 'tissues' that come out of such a 'free' thing. If people were just a BIT responsible then we wouldnt even NEED to discuss this, it wouldnt be an issue.

So, no, I personally wouldn't 'hook up' with anyone, even if I was 90 and never had sex. I wouldnt even want to touch someone that loves to do just that.

dude someone needs to hand you a tissue. you complain and cry about paying for things like its outta style or something. and if people didnt have unprotected sex, how on earth would you be here? you wouldnt.

I think they continue to exist because of ineffective education, effective education being defined as resulting in a change in behavior. If everyone just assumed that their partner was HIV positive, aids would go the way of smallpox or polio.

Yes, I think there has to be some kind of emotional/mental connection, and that takes a while to create. Otherwise, it's an ultimately empty and unfulfilling experience.

I see escorts at least once every few months, different one each time. There is no need to establish a connection; you just put the money on the dresser. Then excuse yourself to the bathroom to wash your hands to give the escort an opportunity to count the money. (Most good escorts will never do that in front of you, as it's considered disrespectful to the client.) Then get down to business, and have fun. Don't smile too much on the way out, or the front desk people will get suspicious.

Every time, there's all fun and no attachment. Knocking on the hotel room door, seeing the girl for the first time, and knowing what I'll be doing with her, gives me an unbelievable adrenaline rush (think of riding a roller coaster). It's simple, efficient, and most importantly, fun.

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I don't believe in sex before marriage.

Yeah. I also don't believe in Yeti. I think he doesn't exist either.

dgd1788 is Mormon and his attitude is pretty common among Mormons.

In Utah a surprising ammount of younger people seem to get married for the sole purpose of sex. You wouldn't believe the number of late-teen/early-twenties girls that I've worked with who just obsess about sex in the weeks running up to their weddings (usually the durations of their engagement). And they ask really graphic questions - it's really uncomfortable.

And what kills me is that I've actually met people who have civil weddings because they "don't feel ready" for the Mormon wedding in the Temple (which they believe is for eternity, rather than til death do you part). Seriously, if you don't feel ready for that, you're not ready. Period.