"OKCupid God" gives advice........

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/1 ... ps=gravity

Best bit of advice:

"Don't take the whole thing too seriously. I think a lot of people (especially men) tend to way overanalyze every minute detail of the messages they send," he said. "Just keep things lighthearted. Dating should be fun. If you're stressing about it, you're doing it wrong."

Exactly! Especially on that site, it's a pleasant surprise when someone DOESN'T flake. I am on there with zero expectations that it will work but at least I am actively communicating with those of the opposite sex. It's hard not to over-analyze when maybe 15% of my messages are returned (and I am highly selective on who I contact) and the rest are answered with one sentence responses much of the time. I spent hours doing and redoing my profile until it dawn on me it's their problem and by getting too emotionally investing I was driving myself mad.

i feel,


we have seen the answer of how dating profiles are online. he makes the humility of all the profile desires we see in years.