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I went to prom last night...... some things were made very clear to me. The person I've like for the past few months doesn't like me. She hasn't told me, but her frind telling me to stop "hovering" around her makes it clear she doesn't like me. Let's just say that stalking is so second nature that I don't know when I'm doing it. I was mostly trying to follow my/her friends around, but I guess they saw it as something else. Sadly, her group of friends was my ONLY group of friends there. Oddly though, I think one of her friends may enjoy me more than the rest of them. I'm really in the middle of figuring out who really enjoys my company over just being able to withstand me right now. My AS was deifnitely not being masked well last night, depresion tends to bring out the anti-social me. Because of that, prom was mostly me wandering around by myself. But the fact that someone started a fairly good conversation gives me some hope for the future. I just wish people would make their feelings more obvious rather than letting me believe I have a chance. Why does romance always equal depression for me? Every time I think I might have a chance...I don't.

I hear you matey - I've been through the same thing a good many times.... Thinking someone might like you only to find out that they don't. I ended up dealing with it by being deliberately overtly nasty to anyone I liked to make sure they didn't like me back - at least that way I knew where I was...... Life sure does suck sometimes......

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I was bored, so I looked on the memberlists of two forums I posted on and sent e-mails to all the Samanthas asking them if they were the one I was looking for. So one of them gave me a response. She's not my Samantha, but I'm having a nice chat with her nonetheless!

Talk about hijacking topics and stalking. 171NewYork, why don't you stick posting to your own topic threads so people can actually have responses to their own threads and them not be centered around you.

Sarcastic, you'll find the right woman in time, it's not easy but it's not impossible either. Take it easy and relax.

This is very common for me. When I thought
someone liked me, they tend to avoid me
for being too expressive, or wordy(I am referring
to NT folk and sometimes AS/HFA folk)
What I find that may help you is 1 out of 10 people
will be immune to the curse of be AS/HFA, or Ghosthunter
and actually want to be around me, or in this case
you. The thing you also must remember it is
not what her friends think or say, if she say's
it directly, then it is truth. Get the truth from
her not her 9 out of 10 opinions. Did she tell you
in quiet ways that you should leave her alone?



Hover-Smother, baah!, you can tell me
me for example, (insert my real name)G.H
you talk too much and then they talk about
their latest sports, ect... as if I don't exist.
I see this as 9 out 10 will make this curse.
The fact that 1 out of 10 see past this is
good, a good friend is better than 9 superficial
ones. Regarding stalking, our AS/HFA tendencies
are often translated as stalking. We try,
but are often misinterpreted. So keep having
faith that this curse of being interpreted as
a stalker (9 out of 10 people) is superficial
and 1 out of 10 will see your inner beauty.



These are not friends if they cannot
see past your translated person they
see( a stalker). Let the 1 out of 10
be known and soon 100 people may
yield 10 friends(in 10 different groups).

In highschool I hung around all groups
and found this dejection. The reality is
people will be people, and if they can't see
your true self and ignore you, that 1 out
of 10 will inspire you. This will also
include College. See Scoots and that
1 out of 10 that eats lunch with him,
and appreciates his expertise that others
maynot.



NT's are like that, SUPERFICIAL. They can't
see past their nose or latest fashion, let
alone TV show fads. Don't let this bring you
down, that 1 out of 10 will survive the curse of
being As/HFA and the curse of being Ghosthunter.





This applies to NT's and AS/HFA's alike and many books
have been written on it. All I can help here is to say
love(a natural high) brings depression(a natural low)
and joy(the reflection that comes later.

I hope I was of help.

Sincerely,
Ghosthunter

P.S...Thanks for updating you Prom statement for
4/21? or 4/22?

Just so you all know, she's been dropping very suddle hints that she doesn't like me. She enjoys me as a friend, but I think is too nice of a person to tell me to my face she doesn't like me the way I like her. Read this thread to get the full story (well, as full as i'll get). http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php?name=Forums&file=viewtopic&t=2349
Also, it was just one friend she sent over. I think it's a friend that isn't really a friend and doesn't really enjoy me (now that I'm thinking about it). There were a few friends that hung out separately after an hour of prom. But the conversation was hard to hear over loud music,it was a couple and the person who I mentioned had a good conversation with me earlier. The only quiet place was near the teachers and policemen, so that was out of the question. Hope this helps with whatever it is I'm getting helped with.

Any happiness within the next week is sarcasm.

Same here. Been there.


Yep.

Here's a link that describes my own basic attitude on this matter fairly accurately: http://uk.geocities.com/vits3k/p1.html

Yep - just saw your post with it..... It sums the whole thing up remarkably succinctly and accurately.....

I still remember my prom, and that was 22 years ago. When the time came to buy the tickets I really didn't know any of the girls (other than my ex-girlfriend from grade 10), but suddenly realized that one of the girls who had been in my math class for three years didn't seem to have any friends. I had never seen her talking to other people, let alone hanging out or walking with them. (It occurred to me at the time that she might be a closet lesbian, but now I'm figuring she may also have had a PDD of some sort.) So I gathered up my courage and caught her in the parking lot after class one day and managed to stammer my way through an invitation to be my date. I think I stunned her, considering we had never talked to each other before and on this occasion didn't do a good job of it. She said "maybe" and then a week later agreed to go with me. I didn't mind being her "date of last resort" since that merely made the situation equal. She picked me up (because my mother wouldn't let me have the car) and we went out for a fairly awkward dinner together at a Chinese restaurant. By the time we got to the prom I was having serious second thoughts. We danced a few times but I ended up spending most of the night out in the hall to avoid the crowd and the noise. Toward the end of the night most of the guys were talking about going to a beach for an all-night drinking party, but I just wanted to go home and crawl under the blanket and hide. I don't even remember how I got home -- I was so freaked and overwhelmed by the whole evening that I was pretty much lost inside my own head. All I know is that someone took me home. It might have been her, but somehow I doubt it.

In spite of all that, I'm glad I went. Otherwise I would have spent the rest of my life wondering what I missed. After all, the prom is a pretty major landmark in teen life.

Yah,I feel for you,dude.I am VERY sorry to hear that.I never liked dances either.The music is too loud for me.

Comfies, matey.
I remember at my prom(Ball, as we call it), I just discussed metaphysics and philosophy with a teacher half the night. The other half was spent playing with wax from candles, which were placed on the middle of the tables, and watching everyone else have a good time. Not that I'm complaining, metaphysics is a fun topic.

Well, it doesn't matter anymore because she's still nice to me. I think her friend was just meddling or I took it too personally. I can take things too personally sometimes, even when I try not too. Most people thought the prom sucked anyways. The dance space was too small and the dancing... heave you ever seen a rap music video? Think that, but with rich white people. I never enjoyed dancing like that.

Going on, I still think I might have a chance. I might sound naive, but I am naive about these things. I should probably ask one of her friends if she likes me any. Oh boy! (sarcasm)

Glad to hear you're doing better.

Keep that chin up Sarcastic Name. You are a good person with a lot to offer the girl who DESERVES you.

Glad you are feeling better