Can't stop liking former crushes again

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Yesterday I listened to a song just cause I hadn't listened to it in a while. Now I can't stop thinking of a girl I had a crush on back when I used to listen to it all the time. This was only back in March and now I can't get her off my mind again, but it isn't as severe as it was back then. This has happened 2 other times where I checked on 2 girls that I had a crush on and hadn't seen in a few years and after seeing what they look like now I fell in love with them again. I don't want to like them again mainly because of the certainty that I will never see them in person again. I have obsessed over each of them for at least a month and I never hope that happens again.

Are you sure its the girl you're crushing on, not the memories from that time?

It will probably happen again, so you better get used to it.

There are two types of solutions:
1. You are monogamous. In that case you need to learn to get over your crushes, or at least make them non-exclusive.

2. You are polyamory. There is no problem. Just enjoy it.

There isn't that much you can do about your feelings. I have fond memories of my former partners and I would like all of them to be my close friends. This has nothing to do with monogamy/polyamory.

It has. If you are not polyamory it would be hard to have feelings for former partners and at the same time have feelings for new / current partners. That's in the very definition of polyamory.

I sometimes feel guilty about my ex-girlfriend and I think to myself What could I have done differently? But I realize that we weren't meant for each other that way.

This kind of thing happens to me all the time, I don't really know exactly what causes it, but it doesn't really happen when I listen to any songs. There isn't really anything you can do about it, you can't control your feelings or who you crush on.

This happened with 2 guys, one my age who I've known since Grade 7, nice, funny, very mature for his age, we have always been on good terms. We talked a bit in middle school, but he never talks to me anymore. The other guy was 2 years older than me, really nice, funny guy. We would talk a lot, then I didn't see him for a while. Then a few months later I was looking through his Facebook, and I found out he had a girlfriend my age. Worst day of my life.

The feelings for both keep coming back.

Yeah I've done this before too. It's doesn't always necessarily have to do with girls either... sometimes I'll just hear a song I haven't heard in a while but used to listen to a lot and it'll take me back to whatever time of my life I listened to it and whatever I was doing then... and if some girl I had a thing for was a big part of that time, obviously that comes back as well. Same thing happens with looking at old pictures or looking somebody up on Facebook that I haven't seen in a while.

Same here. I still care about em & always will as well as a former crush obsession I fell in love with but I realize & accept that we're better off without each other & focus on my current girlfriend instead of dwelling on my past loves.