imaginary girlfriend.

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anybody else ever have an imaginary relationship?
I'm trying to essentially dump mine right now because it's upsetting me too much, the problem is as she's imaginary (based on a real person) it's all in my head, I can't physically separate myself from her to draw a line in the sand because she's not with me physically, I'm having trouble letting go, and only part of me even wants to.

her real life is kind of disturbing (drug addict, goes through a lot of guys for a plethora of reasons) and her disturbing life is disturbing me too much to function and focus on achieving my own goals and maybe getting real girls.

I have no contact with her and have no intention of initiating it.

I love her, I hate her, I'm angry, I'm disgusted.

and none of it's real.

Have tested for fun, and it is amazing how much you can imagine based on minimal contact.

I've never even met her.

Its hard to just remove something like that alone, and leave a void. Its better if instead you can replace it with something else. I don't have a clear suggestion of what it might be. It could be a person, or people, or a pet, or an interest, or work related. Just something that generates new thoughts that your brain can focus on, and the old will naturely fade.

Let me try to understand this now.

Are you saying that the "real person" whom your imaginary gf is based upon is a "drug addict", runs around, and has a disturbing lifestyle?

Or are you saying that the imaginary gf does that?

I guess it doesnt matter. Either way- you need to get an imaginary divorce lawyer- and just imaginary divorce her. Atleast you dont have kids (imaginary or otherwise) to worry about.

But seriously...

I guess its like any other obsession. You just have to quit it (like smoking, or cutting).

Every time thoughts about her intrude- just hit the mental pause button- and go on a dating site. Or look in the paper for local singles' events. And think about the kinda clothes you wear. And put that mental energy into whatever it takes to meet real persons of the female persuasion.

I cannot imagine that much.

But if she is totally imaginary, I don't see the problem. Can't you just imagine she is a wonderful person instead of a drug-addict?

She is real, I just don't know her, I follow her from a far.

Why then didn't you select some nice real girl as your imaginary girlfriend instead? If you don't aim at getting to know her, you could select just about anybody that is nice and attractive, and preferentially somebody that you will never ever know if they have boyfriends or flirts/sleeps with others.

Because I'm completely insane.

and to the dangus who told me to just get enamored with other girls, I already am, my imaginary girlfriend lets me tap strange, she's bi-sexual so we also have 3 ways.

To feel alive I need the rush of fresh women, she understands this, I only love her the other girls are just meat or friends with benefits.

It's a good fake relationship, it's the reality of her life that tears apart my fantasy, she has a life, it's not doing well personally but at least she has a life, I don't, she doesn't have to imagine me.....unless, she does....

chasing amy.

I'm not attracted to nice girls, I'm attracted to bad girls, lost women (I find them endearing) and powerful older women, my aspirations as a businessman are very gaudy, I like successful women, Beyoncé is my dream milf.

I don't like girls next door, I have a very exaggerated personality.

But is she single? Why don't you introduce yourself and get to know her for real? If she has a bad lifestyle maybe you can help her.

i had an imaginary girlfriend once. but i do not have much of an imagination, so she was not much of a girlfriend.

I don't think you are insane.

You just missed some important rules in selecting an imaginary gf:

1. She should be nice and make you happy (in your imagination at least)

2. You shouldn't be able to find out about her life, her possible bfs or sexual relationships, because that is likely to sabotage things (I know it would for me)

3. It's a bonus if she plays along, and if there is a possibility for a real relationship.

oh no.

I relate. I went through something that was kinda the same, but kinda the opposite.

I was severely lovesick for a real life aquaintence whom I couldnt be involved with that way. And at about that time I suddenly got fixated on a certain recording artist of a previous decade named Laura Nyro (kind of a female Bob Dylan of the seventies). Was a kind of fan, but I suddenly got obsessed with her- collected vinyls and CDs. Would suck face with her pic on LP covers while listening to her sing about the ups and downs of romantic relationships, and about some rather earthy stuff as well. So the late Laura Nyro (who died some years before this IRL ) served as an "imaginary girlfriend" for me for a spell. Then it kinda went away as an obsession. It seemed to be a ploy by my unconscious to take my mind off of the girl IRL. But your imaginary GF is not the cure to the problem. She seems to BE the problem.

So...there is a real women, and there is this imaginary person "based" on the person? Basically you're in love with a mythic version of a real person. Which is what EVERYone who falls in love-falls in love with BTW.

Is the 'real person' someone you know from an internet site (like WP- not that Im suspecting she is on WP- but from a social site like this?). You don't have to answer. But if its not a dating site it could be NOT a good idea to try to contact her in an overly forward way. Not contacting her might be the way to go.

Being shy is easy but it is not rewarding. Fortune favours the bold. There are no guarantees in life but the bold at least have a chance. The shy don't. The OP should boldly introduce himself. Drug addiction is a serious problem but someone with a problem needs to be helped, not ignored.