How to handle super-enthusiasm?

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Any idea on how to best handle this extreme enthusiasm NTs show on my behalf, once I actually consider dating someone?

I´ve tried to explain that I don´t experience "being in love" the same way they do. Not only do they not understand, they don´t want to, and even accuse me of low self-esteem and ask me to stop saying bad things about myself when I say I am unable to experience the same level of feelings "normal" people obviously do. (I just don´t feel like walking on clouds, and I´m perfectly fine with that).

It´s like they just can´t congratulate me soon enough, everybody is in such a hurry "being happy for me" long before I have gotten a grip on and am comfortable with this situation myself.

That seriously freaks me out.

haah

well people i guess express in different manners.
I become super enthusiastic when it comes to showing affection and I think I kinda of end up suffocating people.
But I guess if someone said to me nicely to lower the level of enthusiasm I would try.
Maybe they just try to show their affection and the fact that they care, but fail to do so?
COngratulating someone about something is a bit of a social way to try to communicate or show that you care.

and about the enthusiasm ...i'll twsit your question in : how to handle my own super-enthusiasm?:(

Maybe off topic, but I'll write it anyway.

People often congratulate me for something that I think is not worth congratulating for. I think they do it to make me feel good, but it doesn't do anything for me mostly. I often find it useless.
Example: unicycle trials is a fairly unique sport, not many people do it, and it has a long learning curve. When I practise it in the city, and people notice me, they start to applaud. I don't even know them. I ignore it. It doesn't make any difference for me whether they do it or not.
Same goes for saying "thank you". I hate it when people do that, just because "they have to".
Example: I'm having lunch with some people. Someone asks me "Can you you hand me the mustard?". And again "thank you". It doesn't bother me. It's okay to say it a few times, I appreciate that. But not all the time, just because it's a social convention.

Only say it when you actually mean it!

Do it by acting like a crazy psychopath. Rest assured they'll back off after that.