Way to avoid being a pushover

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My gf is already starting to test the water and figure out which buttons she's able to get away with pushing. Like last night I was just getting back home and I txted her telling her I was "just getting in the door, can u give me 20 to shower?" She txts back "you got 10" haha lmfao try thAt sh!t with me, you'll find your methods only hurt your goal.

There's no way I was about to say ok to that crap! Who does she think she is. I wanted to tell her I could take all night if she preferred... Wanted to tell it really wasn't a question, just a nice way of telling her wats up. Instead I played the as*hole and took 30 mins instead even through she waited outside for me. Lol

I know I handled it the wrong way but I refuse to be under her thumb, I don't owe her a thing and I won't worship the ground she walks on. Not my style, sorry. If she's used to that kind of thing shes in for a surprise this time around.

The first time we dated I might have acted that way but I was young, dumb, and full of cum... Woulda done anything to get my rocks off back then... Things have changed since highschool, and she better realize that sooner than later.

Good for you! Better to stand up for yourself now and find out what kind of person she really is, than to go along with whatever she tells you and realize many years from now that she has turned you into a weak-willed shadow of a man.

If she resorts to anything resembling the old "My way or the highway" speech, then take the highway option. You'll be better off alone (for a while) than being with someone who rules by issuing ultimatums.

Sooner or later, she may actually realize that hers is not the only set of female genitalia in the world, but I doubt it.

you sure it wasn't a joke? I see people be playfull like that. and its generally followed by a laugh or face.

Next time you take 30 minutes, she might just go on home and ignore you the rest of the night, because that's what high schoolers do. Instead of playing a game back, you need to communicate to her why you need to take the time and make her understand, not have a negative attitude back and cause more games to be played.

But honestly, there's a lot of drama to be had with "being a pushover" taking extra time in the shower really isn't one of those things, if it is, you two are probably playing a shitton of games with each other. You can "not be under her thumb" by just communicating with her, if she chooses to have an attitude or not compromise with you, that's her own problem. But playing games back is high school s**t.

There is only one way to deal with a games-player.

Break it off, and have no more to do with her.

Once she realizes that she can neither provoke you into playing mind games with her, nor whip you into submission, she will either have a major blow-up with you and slam the door on her way out (expecting you to come running after her), or she will turn on the water works (a.k.a, "crocodile tears") and beg to be forgiven and promise to be nicer to you from now on ...



... only to learn newer, more hurtful mind game to play against you.

You're better off without her. There are better women out there. You deserve better.

Why do I even bother? They never listen ... until it's too late ...

I'm not there to know what is going on. I'm inclined to believe that this might not be that big a deal. And if it is a big deal that you spent ten minutes more than she wanted, then who's problem is that? I'd be saying "not mine." A person can huff and puff all the want, but the bottom line is they will leave if they don't want to be around you for whatever reason.

And of course, one thing I have learned is not to bother posting so much information about my relationship on the internet. Too many different opinions tend to lead to a lot of over analyzing anything that gets posted. Some things are best left for a conversation with the girlfriend.