if a girl is interested in me

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so theres this girl my sister knows and thought we'd be good together. I met her first when i went to pick up pizza one time and she seems nice and is super pretty, but well most people are nice at work. anyways. kinda got introduced to her a the store near by when I was there with my sister. she was in a rush to get things to make a cake so it wasn't much and well I got super shy and didn't say much just followed while they talked.

my sister goes to the pizza place often and the past two times that the girl has been shes brought me up each time. the first time she asked if it was me that had come in week before to get pepperoni and then today she brought it up again while talking about how she was looking forward to the walk my sister is trying to set up with the 3 of us. my sister seems to think this is good sign.

I didn't even realize she noticed me. they were pretty busy and I didn't interact with her other than looking and smiling at her when she smiled at something a coworker said. then I checked out with another person and left.

I'm not so sure. I've been through this before. Where I thought a girl was interested in me and it turned out to be wrong.

what do you all think?

I wish I could help you man, I am terrible at this myself

Perhaps try your bestest not to think of it as a possible relationship?? It sounds like your sister might be putting a good word in for you which will help you along. At least you can ask her to translate body language and help you out a bit!

And also... Try to keep your eyes above the collarbone level, looking anywhere below that just results in frustration

GOOD LUCK

thats not a problem I love faces and eyes. she's quite pretty and has a lovely smile. it's been slow going and now its another week off cause she's got super busy at work due to halloween pizza special. that or she doesn't really want to go.

She might be interested. Interact with her while on the walk and you will find out more. Also, she will tell her sister if she likes you, and your sister will tell you.

thing I worry about is, they will talk about stuff and i'll just end up tagging along as a 3rd wheel. I don't like nail/hair/dresses/shoes etc.
I'm also quite shy and need to be brought into conversations sometimes. I would prefer texting first or one on one walk.

usually whenever I'm out with more then one person i just end up tagging along silently . I don't really know what to say to her. I don't know her interest areas to start subject based talking.

my sister said it'd be two of these 3 people walks, which depresses me as I imaging i'll just be seen as a friend after that. feel i should make it be seen as romantic after first walk.

Ask your sister about the girls interests before going on the walk. That way you have a few things to say that can break the ice.

she doesn't know a whole lot other then the girl likes nerdy things, goes to a game(not sure what type) tournament. they are more of distant friends/acquaintances

My input as requested

I didn't respond to this thread when I saw it because there wasn't enough info to go off to be able to tell whether she is interested or not. But as your sister said, her asking about you is a good sign. A good sign is better than a bad sign.

I want to say "assume she is interested, and flirt with her" but I know of your reservations about doing this. Nevertheless, that's all I've got on this one.

thanks. I'm not sure how to flirt is all. o.O I mean i've done it via text messenging where one can use /me actions and words to flirt but in the real world I don't know. I looked at her a bit while there but I'm fearful that may come off as creepy. I usually just look down at the ground for this reason.

Flirting is more or less just about seeming interested in the person. The best advice I can give is try to find something the girl will want to talk about, and ask about it. Ask open questions, not yes-or-no questions. That way she can say what she's thinking about. Don't be afraid to ask about emotional stuff, just don't ask about sex or anything dark (unless she brings it up, which means she probably doesn't mind).

People like talking about themselves and the stuff they like. If you can get someone to talk about themselves, they'll probably like being around you. Just don't force the conversation. If she doesn't want to talk about something or if she wants to talk about something else, that's just as good.

I don't know what to tell you about whether the girl likes you, but if she's not avoiding you that's a good start. Try to relax and don't think too negatively. Try to enjoy the moment. That's very important, because otherwise there's no point.

went on the walk with her with has left me unsure of where I stand.

then while dropping my sister off for her trip. the girl came walking by to work. my sister suggested I could give her a rid the rest of the way(like 2 miles.) problem is last few months my car has been used as the family car so it was dirty with trash all over. I didn't want the girl I'm interested in seeing my car like that >.< she said she was fine either way and ended up just walking. I feel like i've messed up everything now.

my sister says it'll probably be fine and it was a good sign the girl would be ok getting in the car with me alone.

she was also having a bad day that day and I worry if she does like me I might have added to that by sounding uninterested by not giving her a ride. :'(

I'm also finding it hard to smile now. so I happy and I perk up and feel my muscles move but its just a very very slight smile.

Maybe you should clean the car?

I did right when I got home. i normally keep it clean. but my mom and sister just leave trash in it, her car was filed with trash to the point only 2 people could ride in a 4 person car. so that should tell you that i kept cleaning it but it kept building up. :'(

I'm not the most clean room person due to lack of storage space and depression, but I have always tried to keep my car clean.

probably ruined it with the girl now :'( forever alone and useless.

You haven't ruined it. Just try not to overanalyze the situation and let too much time pass. Take a risk and ask her to hang out again. The more you dwell on the "what-ifs" and the negatives, the less likely you'll be to actually move forward.

I dont think relationships are possible.In fact, walking with a girl is like walking your dog. Unless you try to make a good intention to make something work. Otherwise, its nothing but walking with a friend. Hooking up with someone these days is really out of science. Main purpose is just walk the walk and talk the talk. But what do I know. I just talk to women and just make something worthwhile.