Love: easier when young?

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Did love used to be simple? I think so, because we were simpler when we were younger. Seinfeld observed that, when we were young children, anyone who shared a common interest was immediately your friend. I think that describes romance, too. So fewer variables to deal with when young, seems like. Not that it was any easier, especially for us Aspies. It just seemed like the possibilities were more endless, etc.

...the scars and baggage you accumulate as you get older makes life complicated.

We forgive, we move on...but we never "really" forget. In a way it's a good thing...we become more selective, learning from past experiences...we loose that innocence...love is no longer "blind" like it might have been when we were young.

My definition of love is:

A deep emotional and physical attraction to someone, that knows no bounds, and is forever (hopefully).

Tim

I am not sure (I have not been old yet). It certainly is not easy now. In some respects it is better than at least one occasion when I was younger.

from what i have seen, love is very complicated when you are young as you have not grown up, and you don't know what you really want, i can only hope it does get better with maturity.

I certanly hope not. If it is then I really have no chance at all.

I think it's easier with age, if you mean romantic type love. You know more about yourself and the other person when you are older. You aren't so ruled by hormones and you look for common values and interests. You make sure you like the person because living together day in and day out requires that you really like the person and have quite a bit in common to make it work. Otherwise you are strangers in the same house and there is nothing lonelier than living with a stranger.

I think it becomes more difficult as you get older. When you are younger, you like someone (friendship or sexual) you become friends or lovers. When you get older, all the sudden there are other variables to consider with which you my agree or clash, particularly in romantic relationships. Do you both want children? Do you want to live together? Marriage? All the stuff you don't think about as kids really. But, hopefully, maturity prevails and allows for this journey to be a bit smoother.

I think that love remains simple but other things in life get complicated.
But for the most part- it's only really as complicated as you make it.

Let's say for example you are a soap opera junkie and you insist on living that type of life then you're going to have a complicated love life. Let me explain one of the complicated situations I have witnessed- and this was completely brought on by the couple involved.

W (male) was involved with J (female).
J was best friends with T (female)
T was going out with M (male)
M was best friends with W.
All was fine up until that point and then....
W got M's sister pregnant.
Then W went and got married to T.

I wish there was a diagram I could do... but you can see that W & T made that whole situation more complicated than it should have been. But, they claimed that they were 'in love'. lol