Meeting someone once/rarely, facebook...then no progress.

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Ok, this how it is always happening.

1-I bump into certain person(s) more than once during some activity(ies)/events, and every time I meet them I click with them, we talk and talk... and catch up the news of our life events, she giggles...bla bla.
2-There's usually no mutual friends with those but they are totally single, they are barely acquaintances themselves.
3- I intend to get to approach them through getting to know them better, hoping to create opportunities to meet them even more.
4- So I ask for their facebook, they add me.
5- Later on I start with a private message, they reply, we chit-chat here and there, but there's no interaction otherwise.
6- Leading to nothing significant because it doesn't progress more than step 5.

I've realized that's why I had this viewtopic.php?t=288177

What to do then?

If it always happens like this with many people, there must be something you're systematically (not) doing that it turns out that way.

Yes, but the question is what?

I Have also found that chatting on Facebook doesn't ever seem to go anywhere, but what I have done that's worked is use Facebook to set up in-person meetups. Suggest something fun you can do together, and if she's interested she'll make time for it!

Maybe they don't like you or don't find you attractive enough.

How exactly this was done?

That's also very probable - I could tell which girls (not those ones referred in this thread) had a crush on me because they bothered to initiate interaction and expressed interest in meeting me again more than once (those are obvious signs).

The thing is, you often hear people saying they only liked someone after spending time with them, I am simply seeking to create this time.

IMO this attraction is not from the long stretch of time spent together but some very subtle short moments where you do things that the other gets all lovey-gushy about.
I hope you won't try to do this, then fail miserably... because that would be quite embarrassing.

If the "crushes" wanted to get to know you better, they'd respond to your FB message and continue to get to know you better.

Actions speak louder than words. consider not getting your hopes up until you hear back from the girl you FB messaged.

Aww...katy, thank you for your concern.
But they always respond to the FB messages, this is not the problem, the problem that it doesn't develop beyond FB, reread the thread 10 times again so you can understand it.

Correct. If someone is really interested in doing something, they will go out of their way to do it, or at least attempt to. Period.

It's pretty straightforward. Think of some kind of an activity that's fun and which two people can do together, and then invite her to join you. For example, I asked a girl to join me in going to a local mini-fair where they had some fun carnival games and tasty food an interesting shops. I've also brought an girl to an event where local crafty types gathered from the surrounding region and sold their handiwork. It really depends on 1) what's available to do and 2) what the girl is into.

Was it 1-to-1? If so, that sounds like a straightforward asking out for a date.