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If it's not in your personality, don't do it unless you successfully learn it...cuz it WILL sound like an insult

I do it a lot, it's part of my way of talking. But that's me...it may not work unless you know how to do it.

Making her laugh though...THAT is a winner.

Personally i would take it as a joke, and hope it was one at least. It is a risky way to make a gal laugh though, it may go totally the wrong way and you end up getting nothing more than a slap.

Well i want to make a girl laugh if i can although i want to make sure i can do it safley and not risk a slap or worse, sadly humor is not a storng area of mine, any tips on what i could say which might be funny?

i think shale is spot-on...
making someone laugh means (well, at least to me) that its comfortable enough around here to let my guard down a bit. and that the other person said something that i thought was funny. so, thats two plusses for you right there.
acting out of personality probably wont even induce honest laughs - they will sniff out that its not you (the real youish-you) and wont find the situation comfortable.

for myself, i know that these testosterone-heavy jokes wont work and im glad i dont even like them. i guess im better at mock-anger and the like (incredibly effeminate mock-anger and mock-pouting on top of that, yay!), as well as a well-placed shard of whispered mean-ness that makes it hard not to blurt out laughing madly.

One time I called her a god damn f*****g whore who should do herself a favor and jump off an highway overpass....

she didn't laugh. I was just teasing...

Haha. Yeah, definitely agree with ya there. It does show you've let your guard down a bit, shows you're happy...and possibly amused/impressed by this person.

Acting it up is pretty common, isn't it? It's something I do. As above...mock anger, mock pouting...all a game. I tend to throw mock insults too in such a way you can only interpret it as affection. No one has EVER taken offense by it Acting things out too, since I'm a car addict and explaining things in an unusual way (like using my hands, side-by-side, flicking up and down a little while I make 'pssssht' sounds with each movement to describe the idiots that drive along the road using their airbag suspension repeatedly.. "Psssht...psssht-pssssht...ptch...pssht...psshtpssht..."...that's cripped a few with laughter). Basically being a bit of a clown, a bit of an...egg, as they say here. Lol.

But ultimately, as above. You gotta be you. Don't forget though, you can change over time, and there are different potencies of you. Give people a more amped-up, exciting, strong kick of you. Give them the espresso shot of you, rather than a cold weak cup of nescafe you.

tylerpaul: i sometimes am told of the same problem with me... that people have a hard time to get what exactly was a joke from me the first moments. aspie memoriy doesnt help this, too.

at a friends birthday party, his cousin turned up and i found out that hes quite an okay guy - i study philosophy (purely academic path) and he studies theology (going to be teacher - his reaction to my choice of subject was "wow... thats daring" - referring to the weak job opportunities i have compared to being a teacher), and we got along pretty well, discussing all kinds of things while the others got drunker and drunker.
one year later, birthday party of the same friend, i sit there, he comes into the room, looks at me and says: "hey, thats the philosopher, isnt it?" and i say: "yeah, and thats the coward whos too afraid to study things the right way, isnt it?" - it took him about five literal seconds to get that i was just soking around... lack of in-your-face voice acting and referring to a part of a sentence he said to me one year ago maybe was a bit much...

shale:

I’ve known girls that wouldn’t stop laughing even though I wasn't saying anything funny. Other times it is really dead atmosphere.

I recon making her laugh is a bit of an NT myth. They often say one thing and do another. Of course people like to laugh. It can make you feel light headed and spacey. I'm not saying don't make someone laugh. I think if people like each other they probably will laugh anyway. Well NTs have a knack for this. Small talk is idiotic to me, but acting dumb like that often makes people laugh. It doesn’t have to be comedy. If that were true comedians would be the most successful at courting.