Dating advice you guys should be able to help me with.

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There is a parental group for parents with kids who have Aspergers Syndrome near where I live. Well, I have it, my mother was in the group, and there is this other girl that has it. I'll probably run into her on the 29th at a birthday party. She should be single as far as I understand. How should I best go about this?

She is 22, I'm 18. Age shouldn't be too much of an issue.

If she likes you, that's not a big age difference. You're both adults.
Go for it.

Say hello and see what happens. If she runs away and hides or gets the cops then she isn't for you, a smile and a twinkle in the eye will however mean that your luck might be changing.

Good luck.

Ed Almos

Girls prefer older guys because they think that womankind is always more 'mature' than mankind of the same age... it's BS yet it's accepted by the whole society to justify dating between male adults and female teens.

We're not talking about typical society though. Me and her both have Aspergers Syndrome, and I'm pretty sure she lives with her parents.

Just say "hey what's up?! Want to go out/grab coffee sometime?" I imagine if she has AS, then you won't need to beat around the bush too much. Good luck...

Mmm.... This is semi true, in the sense that aspie girls hate game playing, but then there's another side to it. Many of us have been taken advantage of and generally screwed around by men in the past, personally this has made me very guarded. I have *trust issues* and would want to get to know someone in a context in which I had other friends around before I made the decision to see them alone.

Of course, you've got that opportunity because of the party, which is great! I would just try and get talking to her for the longest possible time and hopefully there will be a bit of a spark between you, if you are similar people. You need to eventually bring the conversation around to something you just happen to be doing that you think she'd be interested in doing with you, ie. movie you'd like to see, gig you'd like to go to... whatever it is you do with your life. And invite her.

a real aspie would answer : the sky. (or 'the roof' in some cases)

Yes you're right. I would also say to the OP, keep things light and easy, don't be too eager, you can easily scare a girl off and lose her interest if you come on too strong (many AS guys don't understand this, I used to do it too).

That will definitely be something for me to remember.