partners with abuse

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Does anyone else attract men with addictions or substance abuse problems? I cant seem to shake this.

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I dated a man who was a sex addict/alcoholic. My current crush has a bad drug problem. I tried to date a regular guy, and it didnt work.

It sounds like this is something you can learn from. Take the positives out of this. The one that is evident to me: you know the types you attract.

Do you think it might help you if you wrote down a list of the character traits (good and bad) you have found in all the men you have dated? Would it also help you to figure out your own behaviour in these relationships? Figure out what it is that you are usually attracted to in these guys? Some of these types of questions helped me to steer away from types of girls I used to date.

I think they like that I understand them. I dont make demands on them like nt girls do.

Ive tried dating older men and younger men, but its the same result.
We know we are both different. Thats why we are attracted to each other. I always want to see people for whats on the inside.

My crush is like a male version of myself. He has severe drug abuse problems. He has od'ed before at least once. I want to be with him, but the thought of waking up next to him and hes cold is too scary. *cries*

I am a man. I am attracted to those type of women. It has a lot to do with my personality. I am a rescuer. I also like what is familiar. I don't really have any personal experience with women who are loving and caring. My primary female caregivers had emotional problems and were not able to give any love. I find that the women who are attracted to me have these same traits. There is a mutual attraction. I think it is because, quite frankly, I don't have much to give. I'm not a good boyfriend and don't treat my partners very well. Maybe in time I will gain some self-worth and some courage to risk being hurt, but right now I don't date at all. I know that I don't have any love to offer, and I don't make the best choices in partners--always attracted to women who will use me, abuse me, and try to exploit me. I think if you get involved with a person like this one time, it is an honest mistake, but if you are only attracted to these types of people, keep getting into relationships with people like this, you might be the problem and not them. There is something inside you that draws you to these people.