Getting over a crush

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There is this guy that I kind of like.At first I was told he was single but now he has a girlfriend so its weird when I interact wit him.I don't know him well but he is a good looking guy and smart too.

What is bothering me is I think about him all the time.There is not a day where he is not on my mind which is annoying.Its so hard to switch off your feelings for someone

Any thoughts?

One word: Transference.

I don't believe in " switching" feelings on and off at will-- that feels detrimental to do so.
I think it's better to recognize and accept what we feel. That way they don't sneak up in inopportune moments..

I'm in the same situation.

What is bothering me is I think about him all the time.There is not a day where he is not on my mind which is annoying.Its so hard to switch off your feelings for someone

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I know this sounds really dumb (and it is) but try to distract yourself with sexy guys that don't exist. Movies, books, anime, whatever. It seemed to help me before for some reason. If it doesn't work, you're welcome to bonk me like Puppet Pal Mitch does to Puppet Pal Clem.
*wonders if anyone got that reference*

Same situation here.Things are starting to get better as time goes by.having to accept that tbe person you like is not interested is something thats really hard to do (and depressing)but for me i feel like it needed to be done.it was going back and forth in my mind for so long not knowing if she liked me back and finding out she didnt was hard but it kind of enabled me to try to move on.

As for advice im not too sure,ive had a hard time with it in the past and the only real remedy was time and maybe some distraction but ist hard to do that when your not realy into it and too focused on those thoughts.

I've had it for about 9 months now. I even dream about the guy. Even when I was dating another guy. I don't really think there is a lot one can do about it but live ones life. Usually time and life events will gradually wash away the feelings. Just let it be.

the only reason I stopped crushing on a celebrity was by getting a girlfriend & I still had feelings for her but the crush feeling stopped. I started crushing again 1ce that relationship ended & the crush stopped again 1ce I got in another relationship.

I've liked the same guy since October of 2013, even though I got somewhat rejected in March.

Finding a new crush is the only thing that's ever stopped mine.
I'm kind of a mess.

Eventually you just move on, it just takes time sometimes. I wish I wasn't so afraid of rejection because rejection was just end it right there, it's the what ifs the kill you for years.

^exactly,when i found out a girl i liked wasnt interested in me it hurt but it ended the what ifs which i was facing for two months.Its been a few days now and things arent so bad now,still depressed but its not as bad as before i knew.I was at the point where i was convinced there was no interest so i was kind of ready for it.

Just think of it as hormones controlling you. Oxytocin is a powerful drug.