Women playing with their hair - why does that mean anything?

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I keep reading that if a woman starts playing with her hair around a guy, it's a "sure" sign that she's interested.

I don't believe it. There could be 1,000,001 reasons she could be playing with her hair! It could be an AS stim for all I know!! I feel sorry for AS people (women in particular) who inadvertently give "signals" and honestly feel harassed when others take it as signs of actual interest...

I'd AT LEAST need much stronger hints if I am to try anything. Something like paying very close attention to everything I have to say, laughing at every lame joke of mine, looking right at me and smiling a lot, and "accidentally" brushing me too often for every time to actually be an accident.

I also doubt "she was playing with her hair" is any kind of valid defense (either in the court of public opinion or an actual court) if charged with harassment if I try to make a "move" on a woman and she's creeped... I think it's just as ridiculous as "she was wearing a short skirt" or "she was hot!"

I have noticed that the hair playing itself means nothing, but the timing of which she chooses to. I remember before I started to date my gf, If I had said something that really peaked her interest, she would start playing with her hair and she would start rubbing her hand around her neck as well while blushing. I kinda took that as a sign that I might have to ask her out and I ended up being right about that.

The thing that caught her interest- she dislikes smoking, and I was a smoker and said I was trying to, and going to stop. That caught her interest and if that wasn't even that much of a hint, being told repeatedly "stop smoking" was the hint she was giving that she was interested in me and my well being. There probably are words involved with the hair playing that will probably make it more obvious.

It might mean something--it might mean nothing.

If a woman is playing with her hair, and looking at you longingly, I would deduce that there is an interest in you on her part.

I certainly feel a seductive feeling when a woman plays with her hair (it doesn't mean I'll act upon it, though).