People don't get along -WTF.

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I don't know how people get along in relationships?? They can't even get along as friends! I am not talking about people who are high school kids but they are adults of 25-33 age.

Check this real-life headache drama with my group of friends (with initials only - no names):
-I met HA in a trip, HA became a close friend.
- HA introduced me to her friend SI.
-SI introduced HA to her cousin.
-HA and SI's cousin became friends too.
-Suddenly, SI's cousin stopped replying to HA's messages, she even hang her phone call.
-HA didn't know what's wrong, she asked SI.
-HA complained to me.
-SI like her cousin, stopped all contact with HA.
-SI stopped contact with me ever since.

- Then I have introduced HA to another bunch of friends: R, HI, and W.
-R and HI fought over silly dispute and misunderstanding and stopped talking to each other
-R complained to me about Hi.
-HI complained to me about R.
-R and HI returned friends but not as before.
-W introduced D to the group
- R and D became friends.
- R introduced her friend SA to the group
- W introduced other friends to us, a girl and her brother: Mo and Mi.
- SA got upset at R and stopped hanging out with the group
- D (he works at a huge pharmacy) started to get bothered by R's special requests.
- D distanced from R and complained to W and to me.
- W and R fought over a dispute related to D.
- HI sided with R.
- D, Mo and Mi sided with W.
- While me and HA stayed neutral.
- W complained to me.
- R complained to me
- HA complained to me how W and R are complaining to her.
- HA and me hanged out with HI and R. at times; and with W, D, Mo and Mi at other times! A group split and we two in the middle :-/
- HA started to get annoyed by R's bossy nature & other things.
- HA complained to me about R's bossy nature & other things - and asked me to come up with excuses to not go out with her.
- HA distanced from R and starting avoiding her suggestions for weekend hangouts..etc.
- R complained to me about HA's distancing from her & other things.
- HA introduced B to the first group: W, D and Mi, Mo
- B and W became good friends
- B and W planned a camping trip
- We went to the camping trip as me, HA, W, Mi, Mo and with other bunch of people, B couldn't go.
- During the camping trip, HA got annoyed by Mi's sarcasm (which happened once).
- HA complained to me and about the poorly-planned camping (according to me, it was fine by me).
- W started to get annoyed by B's requests ( W is supposedly relative to the prime minister); W blocked B on facebook.
- W complained to me about B.
-After a couple of weeks, W complained to me that he's feeling HA is distancing from him, he also told me that R told him earlier that HA has a crush on him and that he got a good fortune from his recently deceased father, he told HA what R told him , and he made it clear to HA that he has no romantic interest in her.
-HA is asking me for a hang out, but with a completely another group of friends of her....

...etc...
...etc..


and here I am, complaining to WP.

/\ /\ Good outline for a soap opera.

This is precisely why I don't have a lot of friends. The more people you let in your life the more stress you get.

Thwy aren't even many friends if you exclude the introduced acquaintances.

My social life went zero for 4 consecutive weekends - each one of those buddies went back to their original circle and I don't have any other circle - they no longer want to hang up together.

I had an active social life in the last two years (and worked so hard for two years to form it) even when I got almost unemployed (underemployed), this really cheered me up at times and somehow made me forget my chronic single status in life.

But now after getting a career, I am afraid I got back to ground zero socially :-/.

Jesus, wat a long and exhaustive story.

people are egocentric