not holding on to an relationship

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Hello, everyone. I just want you all to know that I don't really have a boyfriend. I have many crushes in middle school, high school, and college, but I got rejected. I got out of three long-distance relationship (one of which I used to have two years ago), and I haven't been on a real date. Nowadays, I am not thinking about love much, as I focus on God and school. What should I do?

What should you do about what?

What exactly is your problem?

I wouldn't worry about the fact that you don't have a boyfriend - a relationship that is forced isn't likely to turn out too well anyway. It's more important to enjoy life and what it brings, and if it brings a boyfriend, awesome, if not, still awesome. If you push a relationship and it doesn't turn out well, then in a year you're single and heartbroken, so the same as where you are just with a broken heart too. Better to pursue a happy life and let a guy join you or not join you however it works out.

It's never good to push for a boyfriend, but it's always good to enlarge your dating pool. Find new friends with connections, take on a sociable hobby, do volunteering, look online: anything that gets you in contact with new people.
You should never force love but it certainly will not come knocking at your door.

Keep praying to God, and he may send you a guy from the sky.

Like how James Bond parachuted on that girl's boat.

Lol i thought I'd never have a boyfriend and ended up not even wanting one or seeing the point in it (except I did want to have sex, no strings attached) but instead I ended up falling into a serious relationship because this really good looking guy wanted to date me and it seemed too good to be true but it lasted 4 months and I somehow ended up caring about him, and its kind of funny because I never saw something like that happening to someone like me, i wasn't even looking for it.

And the problem is...........? When it comes to having a relationship, if it is meant to be, it will be. I have found that I am much happier now that I am not in a relationship. No pressure.

In my last relationship, I was under pressure to be "normal". Not by him, but by our friends. We, for a long time were that "perfect couple" that you see or may know. We were the envy of our friends whose relationships weren't so ideal. We lost that ideal image eventually because of my ASD that I did not know about at the time.

I made it perfectly clear to every one of our friends after I left him that it was not perfect. Some would say that I was being vengeful, but I wasn't. I was telling the truth. If I have another relationship happen, now I have the knowledge of why I am the way I am and can maybe explain it a little better.

Long story short, if it happens, great. If not, it's not the end of the world.