Why can't I get past 3 dates?

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I am getting seriously annoyed because ever since I started dating (and I don't do it very often), I will like a girl, go on 2 or 3 dates with her, and then drops off the face of the planet. Meaning, she'll stop responding to texts, never respond and tell me if why it's over, or even if it is over (to be fair, I don't have an actual an actual comittment with any of them).

I am wondering about a series of things:

1. Is it normal, if they meet someone else or whatever, to cease contact without any explanation or even telling the person afterwards? As I said, it's usually about 2 or 3 dates, without any actual comittment.
2. What have some of you others tried that has allowed you to keep a relationship with an Nt?
3. Where can I Meet an Aspie in SC?
4. How can I prevent them from choosing someone else over me?

Thanks.

I'd love to try it with another Aspie.

what happens during the dates? does she appear to like you or not?

I'll go into more detail about what happens during the dates later.

They all seem to like me. One of them and I shared a lot, and were even texting and making plans like we were bf and gf. But then out of the blue, they stop responding to me.

it is unfortunately socially acceptable to just cease contact with someone when they lose interest. they don't explain it in the slightest, they just lose interest for whatever reason and disappear.

How many dates would it be socially unacceptable for them to disappear without explanation?

I would think (and of course I'm far from an expert) that three would warrant some contact (a text or something).

The most likely thing is they meet someone else.

By third date they got a good picture of you and made the final decision. Its kind of like looking for a job, the employer generally won't call you back after an interview if they are not interested. Other than trying to be more attractive, there is not much you can do but keep trying with different people until you get a match.

I don't know, but I can't even get past the first date, so I guess at least you're doing something right.

Oh,I rarely get past 1 myself. LOL The first time a woman ceased contact out of the blue, I got in a little trouble, not with the law or anything, as I didn't understand that this was socially acceptable. I now know not to do this again, but I still would like to know what I do for this to keep happening.

Yeah, just ignoring someone you've actually met is pretty rude if you ask me. Unfortunately, there seem to be a lot of rude people out there!

With one, it's fine. She can ignore me to her heart's content. 2, it's questionable. But three, I really think some form of communication is in order.

I think all HUMANS deserve an explanation. anything else is rude and treatings like they don't matter.
all jobs I've applied to send emails, call or heck some send personal letters in the mail. why? seems a waste of their time and money. perhaps cause they decide to treat others as human beings so even if they don't want to hire them they treat them with respect people deserve. dating is way way more personal yet people are so rude and inconsiderate.