Desperately want to meet someone!

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I broke up with my Aspie bf at the start of June, and for the longest time just didn't feel interested in anyone very much. My anxiety was also especially bad, so I didn't get to know very many people at my new uni. I just really would like to meet someone now! I sort of missed the chance with a guy who I was on the fence about being interested in recently, and I guess it makes me realize it more. I have some great classes this semester, but I'm worried my anxiety with cripple me into eternal silence again (read: I shell up with people I don't know. I literally just don't have any words that appear in my mind to make conversation.) I would love to meet another Aspie again, mostly because I seem to gravitate towards people I don't have to explain myself to/who gets my weird things and won't immediately discount me.

Any advice? I don't like feeling lonely, but I also worry that I would jump right into something too quickly due to the loneliness :/

Aww, you sound like a female version of me. It's cute. I've been in quite a few relationships but only with NT girls, and after reflecting on past relationships, I'm rather pessimistic about dating an NT again. As I was going through my self-discovery process, I read a book called Asperger Love: Searching for Romance When You're Not Wired to Connect about an AS-AS couple. I *do* believe it builds a strong bond and promotes reciprocal growth in ways that neurodivergent couples would not experience.

How did you meet your original Aspie boyfriend?

First of all, don't do anything hasty.

Second, do some self-discovery, and find out who you mesh with and who you don't, and go from there.

Tip: You keep creating whining threads here and your inbox will be filled with phone numbers and home addresses of desperate aspie males here in no time.

Try meetup.com for regular or aspie groups. Also, check out clubs in your uni or try to hang out with people from your class by going somewhere with them. There may also be bars in your area where people your age hang out, would help to ask around.

i wouldn't date anyone at all. if you're worried serious anxiety is going to ruin it, it is. it happened once, why go through all that to end up hurting someone and yourself? take some time to relax and get to know some people, rushing things you know won't work is a horrible idea and you're only going to hurt people.

I bet she's already dating someone now hence her silence.

Well if you're attractive, even normal looking, guys will be more than happy to date you. Now it's not all about looks. What you want to do is pick the guy who you think you'd be compatible with. Now dating isn't everything either. Of course its normal in emerging adulthood to want to find someone. But sometimes we have to defy human nature because human nature isn't always the correct way to go. Ahh screw that. Go out and partay like its the end of the world.

Hi there! There are a lot of people really with such a problem. You don't have to give up but try harder. Maybe you should try some online dating? Some of my friends have found their love using Mymagicbrides website and Tinder app for iOS. Just be more confident in yourself, everything is going to be fine!