Not comfortable for this date.

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There was a girl who was showing great interest for a while (daily texting, asking for meetups...etc) and things were going well... until she met a buddy of mine in one evening outing, they clicked well and conversed about many things (he's way more extrovert and conversationalist than me); her interest in me dwindled next day (texts, calls...suddenly almost zero) and switched entirely to this guy, her facebook activity on his profile was crystal clear lol - and they seem were hanging out together I've been only seeing her in group outings ever since, I moved on.

To make a long story short, the guy blocked her contact for some reason, - couple of weeks later - her interest in me re-initiated as before, she even told me "there's no two like you" - yeah, right, it took her one evening to replace me.

I was supposed to have a date lunch + cinema with her today (holiday) that she set and suggested but luckily all was postponed due to an urgent summoning I had from work.

I am not feeling comfortable with this situation, I feel that the only reason why she's interested in me again is because I am her only option...for now, does she take me for granted? A plan B guy? - what guarantees that she won't switch interest like she did before?

She sounds like a fickle piece of s**t.

I'd say go for it. /sarcasm

I don't think there is any guarantee. It's the same with fair-weather friends: enjoy them if you want, but be prepared for them to disappear when things get serious.

Personally, I wouldn't tolerate being literally the fall-back girl. Maybe it would be okay if I wasn't the one who first caught their eye, but not the one they saw, forgot about, and then came back to once rejected. That's a rejection in itself (choosing someone else), and if the only reason they un-rejected me was because they couldn't get the one they really wanted then my value in their life would be pretty clear.

I'm sorry that happened to you Boo. For what it's worth I think your handling it well.

I think you've done the right thing. The last thing you want is a relationship with a crap foundation.

Ehhhh, she sounds a bit fickle, don't you think?

Honestly, it sounds like she's the kind of girl that's looking around. Yenno, going on dates with multiple people at once. But who am I to say that? I don't know her. Just assuming from a first impression.

But yeah. Seems you're not taking it very well so I say ditch the girl.

^ Are you a lawyer? You talk about this subpoena s**t in almost every post.

It's not a matter of what I claim, or entitlement or exclusivity or any of this s**t, but the very fact that she has this mental capability to switch feelings/crush from one person to another in no time scares me - I have the free choice to reject her for this reason.

I can understand why you wouldn't want to. I'd probably go anyway, just to see how things go down. It probably wouldn't have worked out anyway, since she seems a bit fickle. Maybe she thought they had a better connection and they both realized they didn't, or she upset him. Hard to say.