Who's single and who's not?

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This post will clearly show my ineptness on the subject of women, and why I'll probably never be able to maintain any kind of relationships with them on any level (I've tried and failed a couple of times).

Lately I've been thinking long and hard on the subject of dating. I read thru the newspapers back home each weekend, and I'm begining now to see engagement notices for former classmates who have found their soulmates. The notion of meeting someone of the opposite sex with the intent of marriage and having children, for NT's at least, seems to occur, and is executed on a instinctual level. But for me, I've always desired, but my mind always drew blank on how to go about executing just such a plan to obtain a GF. I only took relationship with other women when they were thrust in front of me, such as at work. And typically for me it wouldn't be long until my aspie tendancies would ruin things. So I've refrained from vouluntarily trying to meet up with singles.

But one nagging question I have, during my classes, I look around in each of my classes and see girl after girl, nearly everyone all prepped up and dressed up, nearly 90 in my science pit class alone and I can't help but think that each and everyone is currently going out with another guy, but logical deduction would seem to prove that notion wrong.

So, outside of doing things such as putting my name out onto dating services or other things like that, is there anyway thru physical appeareance alone to tell if a women is single or involved? Or do I have to take my chances and gather up the courage to ask? Or is it even appropriate to ask someone such a question in a classroom setting?

I'm totally lost on this here.

Through appearance alone, the only thing I can think of is an engagemant ring. Although if you can stumble through small talk you may want to start a conversation with one of the girls that you are interested in, I have been told that as a polite way of rejecting someone, NT's mention "my girlfriend" or "my boyfriend" so I guess that's a way to tell.
I'm not so sure about all this myself, though, I'm just friends with this guy and He hasn't contacted me for a while, so I'm not even sure he's still interested This whole relationships thing really does a number on one's self-esteem, huh?

Not really. You can't tell whether someone is taken through what they look like. Even NT's have this problem.

Yeah some people keep their relationships so private because they like it that way that it's hard to tell if they are just friends or more.

Outside of in adulthood and when people end up engaged/married and wear rings even some of them don't do so.



There is never anything through physical appearance, problems between men and women would have been solved from beginning of time if it had been. All you can do is get the courage up to ask and take your chances. It's best not to approach someone in a classroom setting. It's best to do it outside of school. Some people feel they are at school to learn and not be hindered by dating, others may not. They would likely have school work on their minds and be distracted than if you did it outside of the classroom.

VIRGIN 4 LIFE here! Stop trying to get laid, that's for those NT knuckleheads who hang out in the front of the school. You mentioned that you were in class. Well, if you're a high school or college kid, you're not supposed to be dating anyway, at least in my clique. Involuntary celibacy is a gift, you get more time to hang out, to do the things you like, to learn more. You're also barred from temptations and from STDs. Embrace it!
We learned about STDs in school last week... nasty business. Just stay out of sexuality, like me.

I'm not looking to get laid. I don't think I could ever pull that off on my own....

That's why you need a partner then to help you out

trust me, you'll eat these words.

I've been single my whole life, except for once but that didn't really count because I screwed it up too early with my antisocialness. Going to an all-boys school didn't help much.