Asking out exes friend

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Just wondering how big of a social no-no it would be to ask out a friend of my ex gf. My exgf and I went out about 3 months and she broke up with me about a year ago. Her friend seems nice and somewhat aspish (not sure though my ex was). Would be nice to go out again with someone so would this be a huge no-no

It would be a big no-no for following reasons.

1. Treated the ex poorly, or acted dangerously or disrespectful around her.
2. Provided number one has happened, this girl you like is still good friends with your ex.
3. The ex had convinced her friend that you aren't worth dating.
4. You haven't been in touch with either of them.

It would likely be fine if your ex is cool with it and respects and likes you anyway, and this girl likes you too.

The Squid feels it's not really a bad idea. Your girlfriend ended your relationship a year ago. That shows you're not just rebounding. That being said however, if you ended on bad terms with your last relationship, it could be more difficult. We say give it a try, worst that will happen is she will say no.

1) Nope.
3) Doubtful... I think.
4) We do a martial arts class every week, sadly this means I would likely have to ask her out A) near my ex, and on some occasions her parents train with us too... :-/.

P.S. Also somewhat important to note... I am pretty sure she has some mental health issues (possibly anorexia as that is what my ex has)... so I wouldn't be surprised if my ex didn't want her to date me for that reason and might get mad at me for asking her out.

3 months isn't that long of a relationship, so mind if I ask how serious things were? I think whether or not asking out her friend is OK depends on that.

I thought we were pretty serious, but she still had a lot of issues she needed to get over and broke it off.

If she is no longer good friends with said ex, then I'd say take your chances and go for it. However, if she is, then I personally would ask said ask if they were OK with it.

Not at all. Go for it and good luck!!

Turns out she is sort of engaged... how boring :-/ lol.

Yah if my gf Ariana Grande broke up with me and started dating my best friend Danny Devito, i'd be pretty pissed off. Like wtf bro, why u gotta date my ex-gf for? #FriendsAreJerks