Will I be alone forever?

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I am having such a tough time right now.

I feel so alone. I'm 31 years old, and everyone I know is married with families. I want that so bad. I'm a single mom, but I want a husband and more kids and the whole nine yards.

I've tried the online dating thing...wow that was a joke. One guy was a complete narcissist, another forgot to tell me he was married, and I talked to another guy one time on the phone and he started texting 20 times a day and totally freaking me out.

I'm just starting to think that I won't ever meet anyone. I am so shy when I first meet a guy...my brain just "locks up" and I can't think of anything to say. If I really like him....forget it. I can't be myself at all.

I just feel so frustrated and lonely. Sigh.

Nobody should feel alone. Make yourself a hot cup of chocolate and plan a picnic with your kid(s).

Last edited by Kenjuudo on 23 Jun 2009, 11:35 pm, edited 1 time in total.

If only you didn't have 10 years on me...

I feel like I will always be alone, that people deem me unsuitable because I'm different... I am 33 and that's scary.

I don't like seeing other people with the same problem... it makes me sad.

KenM, is out there somewhere.

wow.. am i looking at myself in the mirror.. ditto on that not being yourself thing.. yes it can be frustrating to see couples have what they have so effortlessly and we want to please people so bad.. i think the saying is true though.. you need to find happiness and completeness outside of a relationship then when you do meet someone it's not about self seeking but what you have to offer, than being yourself will come alot easier.. i know.. sounds good on paper.. hang in there.. i feel you

go for the quiet introverted guys and not the players. it's tough, but if u reach out to guys and look for quality and give it time, then a relationship will fall into ur hands. it sucks being lonely. but being a single mom can be a plus. u know i have AS and i don't want to have my own kids ever because i don't wanna see a child suffer like i did. but i'm ok if the woman has a kid already. plus women become more aspie friendly after they have a kid - it's the emotional intelligence in them that gets better.

I don't know if you will be alone forever. I think not. You have kids so you have met a fella at some point. And it is a tad easier for women because in this society the guys are supposed to make the first move. If you think it is difficult keeping a conversation with some guy who approached you and introduced himself, think how much more difficult would it be for you to make the first move: to walk over there and chat him up! Ugh. That's what's expected of me.

I, on the other hand, will be alone forever.

there are asperger dating sites and stuff like geeklove. also post info on you and schedule a date wit someone on WP

I can't believe how attractive you are, I mean on some level you have to know it, but that avatar really captures your looks. I think the attraction is there, the problem we all have is bringing it out in others. I understand why it feels difficult to find the right man, people take a long time to understand. Location is an important factor in real estate, it's an important factor in relationships too, if you don't frequent the right places that have the right men, you just won't meet them. I can understand your situation though, you have parenting to do and I can understand if you don't have much time to devote to meeting people. But perhaps an outing with your kids can help you meet someone. Although many men prefer women without children, I know a lot of guys who only talk like that for appearance sake and I can tell you personally that many men aren't at all repelled by children.

That is completely uncalled for.

wow, i really feel the same way. esp. the locking up infront of people esp. if i like them
i too am scared of remaining alone for the rest of mylife. Its scary because i dont think i can do it. I mean, another 60+ years of feeling alon, depressed, Im not that strong. As time moves on i feel my will crumble.
going to see a GP about in a few days and see if i can get things diagnosed and treated. psychiatric intervention, drugs, whatever i need. hopefuly this is the path to a happy future.

If only you stop seeing every single woman here as a dating material.....
If only you stop wishing that every single female user over there was geographically closer to you or closer to your age.

.... If only you stop dreaming that women here would overlook your shortcomings unlike the women in your real life.

Man, stop dreaming and work on yourself..

Are you afraid of being alone or of being 'lonely'?

Because the term "lonely" in most contexts usually means "lacking companionship in the romantic sense" , while being alone just means being alone with no one else.

You're obviously won't live alone since you have kids and I don't think they're old enough to live on their own, maybe you have a pet too. . What you're obviously afraid of is being lonely forever and not alone.

While the feeling of loneliness might suck (I very rarely feel it personally) at least you're not alone , just note that there are so many adults here in 30s and 40s don't even have the latter "luxury". Being socially alone is worse than being lonely.

The women here are the ones that don't just brush me off or completely disregard me... Even if no woman here would ever actually like me, they've still done more for me (by acknowledging my existence) than most of the now-twentysomething population of NJ...

I don't agree with this. It's all a matter of perspective and your outlooks from your current situation.