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I met an AS guy online and we fell for each other very quickly. Unfortunately he became depressed three months in and said he couldn't handle being in a relationship whilst he was suffering.

We kept in touch, but didn't see each other for over a year as he couldn't handle it. Eventually he started texting me constantly and then we began seeing each other on a regular weekly basis. Although we had previously had a normal physical relationship, he told me he was nervous about it this time around, so I made do with a quick kiss and hug at the end of our dates.

Recently I made a comment about our relationship via text and he shocked me by saying that he had previously told me that he couldn't be in a relationship, we were just friends and he was a single man! I told him that I was unable to keep in contact with him whilst I still have feelings for him, but I miss him so much. He wouldn't talk to me about the mixed signals he had been giving me and I'm totally confused!

I was happy with the way things were between us and didn't demand anything of him. I also understood his need for time alone. Why did it go from a relationship to just friends, when he treated me like a girlfriend in most respects?!

Hi asp_love.

In the future, be explicit communication wise; be direct and ask where your relationship stands rather than basing your assumptions off of his actions/gestures. When in doubt, just ask.

Thanks for responding Beau. We are not in contact currently, but I will try to be more direct with him in future if I am given the opportunity.

Hey.

You're welcome. To clarify, I meant in general, for any kind of romantic relationship, not just with him.