AAARGH! Advice Please

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Just yesterday broke up with my girlfriend of 1 month (my longest relationship ever, hehe...) It was a mutual decision and we're staying friends, in fact since then we seem to be getting along a helluva lot better than when we were going out, when we were always fighting.

But... well, as I normally do after a break up, I'm experiencing mood swings, as well as a nagging, dull depression somewhere at the back of my mind. But more than that, I think I'm beginning to miss her already. So basically... what do I do? I can think of four options:

1) Tell her it was a mistake to break up and say we should get back together. Will probably result in us getting back together, then beginning to fight again and eventually breaking up all over again. Also, if I tell her that I want her back, I can't really go and change my mind once I've said it without looking like a total jerk.
2) Go "on the rebound". Try and find someone else. The danger here is that I might go for the first thing that comes my way, which aside from looking a little desparate, will probably mean I'll regret it later.
3) Go out and enjoy being single. Get drunk, get off with as many girls as possible, and generally have a good time.
4) Be sad and lonely for the next few months.

number 3 sounds the best

Is this a rhetorical question?

numero three. If you know you are just going to get back together and fight again, thats a bad cycle. You have to break the cycle. Enjoy being single. But I wouldn't recommend getting off with as many girls as you can. Try getting happy and stuff but I would keep away from women for a while in general. Dont go for a rebound relationship. Definitley keep away from your old gf.

I'm not suggesting staying away from her entirely, I still like her as a friend. But okay, point taken, no trying to get back with her.

And no, it's not a rhetorical question. I need advice!

OK.
number 3.

I'd go with 4. Then again, I wouldn't have
broken up with her either. I stick around.

This is the killer part of breaking up...and part of the reason you see your friends stay in loser relationships....

this feeling of missing her is normal whether you are the dumper or the dumpee....resist the urge to have contact with her...it's like continually picking a scab.