If I tell my crush that he I think he is cute?

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Last time when I worked with him which was a month ago ,I wore make up since I knew I was working with him. We don't work together everyday since we work in different floor . He noticed my make up and told me that I look good.

However ,I am planning to tell him that he is cute and he has nice eyes when I work with him again Would this send right signals that I like him?

I dunno, ultimately you should go with your instinct, but I've found that men don't respond well to direct female interest. It has made things uncomfortable in the past for me.
I would recommend showing interest in a shared interest. This seems to imply interest in the person.

Most likely that would send the right signal to him.

If that approach fails, be subtle like a brick.

Yeah, that's what they all say. Granted, I'm old and witchlike now. But even when I was younger and not half bad whenever I showed direct interest it seemed to intimidate the guy.

What do you mean shared interest. Since he told me that I look good last time then its okay to make such comment? I don't want to make him feel uncomfotable

I've been direct in the past with guys I liked and it drew them away. They found it strange that I couldn't flirt using my body language instead. I believe most men prefer the "seduction game". I don't understand why NTs enjoy this. Personally I'd rather know exactly what someone thinks of me instead of guess about it.

So telling him that he is cute is too direct?

That's what one would think, but I have found it not to be the case. Even though men say otherwise, they like to be the pursuer.

I've never found the whole ultimatum approach the best one to go by. I find the key to relationship success is expressing interest while always maintaining "plausable deniability".

Well is he a shy guy? Shy guys often have difficulty talking to the women they like. In this case, you should be the one who tells him that you like him and would want to be your boyfriend.

men like different things. its probably 60/40

i would rather women be up front. now when women say i'm cute it does make me uncomfortable. I know i'm not cute, so it throws me through a loop. but it does show they are interested in me, which means i can start showing i'm interested in them.otherwise I won't, far too risky.

maybe other guys don't like it and want to pursue, but find it hard to believe most guys wouldn't like hearing they are cute, its like saying women don't like being called pretty. most people like being told they look good regardless of gender.

think a lot of it and way more back when you were young is societies roles placed on men says men pursue, so if you get pursued then you less a man. this is hopefully less an issue now a days.

I don't think telling him he's cure is the same as telling him you want to date him. If a girl told me I was cute I'd just assume she was being nice for some reason. I'd had women who were married & old enough to be my mom tell me I looked handsome before so I'd assume it's a similar type thing.

Yes he does seem like a shy guy.He avoids direct eye contact whenever we talk.He seems nervous around me

What are some signs should I do to show him I am interested? Should I tell him that he is attractive?I don't want to directly ask him out just in case he doesn't feel the same way

If he is shy, you may want to be a bit more direct. Besides, if he feels the same way (I don't want to ask him/her out in case he/she doesn't feel the same) you are at an impasse.

And I thought I was the only guy who used to feel intimidated by the direct approach. I used to have that problem in middle school.
Girl: Will you go out with me?
Me: eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep!

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