How to approach a guy again without creeping him out?

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I had noticed this cute guy that goes to a class right next to mine, and I wanted to talk to him. So one day, I finally caught up to him and had a little small talk about the weather. I forgot to tell him my name, so I was going to when I see him again.

Yesterday, I had noticed him and caught up to him once again, trying to not interrupt the conversation he was having with an older man. I held the door open for him, and I saw that he smiled. I ended up nervously tell him my name, and pretty much followed him until I got to the building where my next class was. I said "Bye!" kind of in a loud and awkward manner, and he didn't say bye back. I felt like I was stupid.

I really want to approach him again, but I'm afraid he might think I'm a creep. What should I do?

It's nice that you like this guy. I, myself, would be flattered.

Alas, even in this age of relative gender equality, there are some guys who would prefer to make the "first move." It's possible that the guy might get "creeped out" by a "forward" woman--but perhaps I'm talking through my hat!

What I would do: wait for a time when I'm alone with the guy, then say you noticed that he's interested in something you're interested in. Then talk away--making sure you listen to what he says, and that you don't monopolize the conversation.

Ask him to tell you about something he seems to like, but do not pretend.
If you got a smile from him, this is good, just be patient, like watering a plant.

He might think you're a little creepy especially if he notices some random girl is following him and saying bye to him. On the other hand, he might be thinking yeah some girl is following me, she digs me. Or he might be like, oh noes a girl is following me what do I do? I don't know, I wasn't there at that moment in time.

If you are going to talk to him, don't come on too strong too early. Dont be like, wanna get married and have kids? It usually doesn't work. Just find a way to break the ice with this guy. Ask Dr. Google for dating advice, Google is the real love guru. The fact that you're not afraid to initiate conversations is a good thing, I wish I was the same way.

Maybe skip a day and see how he reacts? Don't be all obvious spying on him. Just bust out the cell phone and ignore him like you're on a Call That Matters. Is this everyday or MWF/ Tues, Thurs?

Other than that ask what he did this past weekend. Then you'll learn his interest/ about him.