Question on cats and marriage

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I've been told many times that unless I get rid of my cats, it will be very hard to find a husband. It seems that the reasons range from 'because guys don't like cats,' 'some guys won't be able to stand the mess made by the cats' to 'it will interfere with your relationship.'

Is it plausible that if I keep my cats (I have 2), it will be difficult for me to find a husband?
I would appreciate honest opinions from any gender...

I don't think it would make things more difficult. But maybe he would be jealous? Don't know myself.

My husband accepted my cats. If you're dating a guy and they don't like your cats, I don't think you're compatible.

I'd marry a woman with cats. I'd see the cats as MORE reason to marry her.

Double that...I dont trust people who dont have or love animals.I think it is a good indicator of someone with or without a soul,thats something you want to weed out when choosing a husband.The person who is giving you advice,though well intentioned ,either needs to increase their meds or is intentionally misleading you.I have had several boyfriends who had cats and lived with me and my cats.This is total rubbish.Honestly.

If they don't love your animals then why are you with that person in the first place?

Two cats isn't bad at all. I'm not a fan of cats indoors, but that's just personal preference. A lot of guys love cats every bit as much as you do.

really if a guy gets put off you because of your cats that is his problem
personally i like cats so it certainly wouldn't put me off

I can't see any problem with two cats. It's the people who end up 20 who have some serious problems.

Some people really LIKE cats. It does cause some real problems to deal with a lot of them though. An ex of mine used to take in strays.

Sunny, my husband is completely OCD. My pets have always driven him up the wall (he'd probably vaccuum them if he could, but he compulsively brushes them and bathes them). However, he never told me I couldn't have my pets and if he did, his butt would be on the street so fast it would make his head spin. That's something he definitely knows.

If someone tells you to get rid of animals that you have taken responsibility for they are worthless. Basically they are saying that they don't take responsibility or love seriously and they think it's easily cast aside like garbage. If you go with someone like that, you will get the same treatment and so will any children you have. I've seen it over and over. People who treat animals badly, treat people badly.

Now, that's not to say that if they don't want pets and they don't have them that they are treating pets badly, it's to say that if they feel that way, they will either compromise to be with you or just tell you they can't deal with it.

The other side of the coin is this - if you will dump your cats in any way for a man, you also do not take responsiblity and love seriously and he can also expect the same treatment from you.


I knew my husband was it by several incidents, but one was when we were living together and I had a kitten who was caught in a door. He rushed me to the vet with the kitten, paid the bill (because the kitten died and I was distraught) and took care of me afterward. When someone doesn't understand your interest in something or a pet, but does that for you, then you know they are the one who is going to stick with you through anything. That is what you want, not someone who is going to tell you to cast aside the things you care about. Make sense?

cats are wonderful

My grandfather once vacuumed my cat, why Gopher didn't take revenge on him for that is a mystery to everyone.

I have a cat. Usually people point out other reasons that I'll have a hard time finding a wife. I know the whole "cat-lady" stigma, but I don't think two cats qualifies for that. Start to worry when you have 10+.

Some guys like cats. Some don't. Same thing goes for women. If you look at it that way, then yes, it will be harder to find a husband, because by having pets you have added another variable that they could use to decide about you. If they are petty, or inflexible, and they don't like cats, then yeah, said guys won't be an option, so technically it will be more difficult. That's no reason to get rid of your cats. If they can't accept you (and your pets) as you are, then would they be the right choice anyways?

If a guy won't marry you because of your cats he's not worth while and you'd be happier with your cats than with him.

I'd object at least as strongly if he WAS marrying you because of your cats.