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Last edited by Wormy on 30 Mar 2007, 4:56 pm, edited 1 time in total.

That teacher is breaking the rules. I think you should tell another adult about it. And for the boy, I think he still likes you, and I think you should ask him out, whatever that really means.

Thanks.I typed too fast...you might see some mistakes.Sorry!

Please people,reply...Try to understand me.
Am I the only teen in here?
If you are older just try to go back to your teens.The best advice comes from adults

Last edited by Wormy on 25 Mar 2007, 2:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.

There's a lot of teens here. It's just the time of day when people start coming on here.

I guess so.Most people on here live in America and I don't so it's probably going to take a while,thanks for replying.

The teacher is in the wrong. Have nothing to do with him other than necessary. As for the guy, well guys are no good at reading the signals when someone likes them, even when they're NT! Guys get a little embarrassed when talking to girls anyway, so even if he likes you, he may find this hard to deal with at first, especialy in front of his peers. Stick with it, dont give up.

Yeah, that teacher is way out of line. Hey, you might want to make the first move. That often works.

But what if he stopped liking me when he found out I was autistic?!
He said he didn't care but,what if he finds out more about it and thinks im a freak?!
What if I asked him out and get rejected and made fun of?

First one: That would make him pretty pathetic and not worth YOUR time.
Second: I have never come across this
Third: If you get rejected, it happens. And I generally find that getting rejected is something that people rarely make fun of.
Just give it a shot.

What shall I say?
When?
How?

That teacher is pretty screwed up.

As for the boy, you should try to talk to him. I think that very few people meet anyone, at 15, who they're going to have a long-term relationship with, but shyness is something which takes a long time to overcome (to the extent that it can ever be overcome), so you may as well get started on the process. The results may or may not be what you hoped for, but at least you will have done something, rather than doing nothing and going on wondering what might have happened if you hadn't been quite as shy. One way or the other, at least it gets resolved. And if nothing long-term comes of it, that's fine -- any mostly-positive relationship is something which you will fondly remember, any mostly-bad one is something to learn from, so that you do better next time.

And don't worry so much about your autism. You are you, and labels can't change that. If whatever autism you have is not something that's obvious to someone who sees you pretty regularly, then maybe you are serious, shy, not very social, or whatever, but those are neither uniquely autistic or necessarily bad. It was very creepy and wrong that your teacher tried to use it against you. Most people here think that a little autism can be a very positive thing. In my field, computer science, people with AS or HFA are very accepted -- it's quite common among computer scientists, including the very best and brightest. Everyone does best when they do the things that they love, and are worse at things they find boring. Autism makes you more that way than most people, so your weaknesses may bother you, but your strengths may become very powerful. And I bet that you don't even mind the idea of missing out on a career of door-to-door sales.

So don't be ashamed or uncomfortable, love yourself and be proud of who you are. And, hard as it may be, work your way into more interaction with that boy. If you don't, nothing will happen. And whatever you can make happen is better than nothing. At worst, you'll make some mistakes and learn from them.

I'll try.But what can I say? He like,walks around me and stares at me,probably
expecting me to say something,but,I can't think of anything.We just glare at each other.

If you have problems with facial expreressions, practice smiling in the mirror. Then the next time he walks to you like that, smile at him and say "hi", or "hello", or something simple like that. Hopefully that will break the ice and he will start talking to you. Something to talk about would be a shared interest, maybe he likes Nintendo DS too.


Even if things don't work out the way you are hoping, the earlier you start practicing speaking to people even when you are feeling very shy, or anxious, the easier things will be later on. I think there are many adults with AS here who wished they took more chances and spoke with more people when they were your age.

Pass him a note. Explain that you overheard the conversation, and that you want to be friends - that it's hard for you to just approach someone. Also suggest going somewhere. Once the two of you can sit and talk, things should get a lot easier.