I feel like I'm ugly

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I try my hardest to look my best every day, but most times I look in the mirror I only get one thought "that's some ugly mug you got there," I used to say that in a more masculine and positive tone, but now I'm afraid it's more of a bitter truth than anything else. I don't consider any of my facial features to be attractive in any way, to me my skin looks pale and pasty, and even all the exercise I've been doing hasn't changed the fact my body just plain looks weird (cause my arms and legs are longer than my torso). I'd think this is all in my head, but looking back I've never had a girl call me anything like "cute, handsome, etc." I think the closest to something like that was once being described as "in-shape." My muscles may be strong, but my self-perception is rather weak right now...

If you post your photo, everyone here will give you a more rational perspective. I think most of us feel strange, ugly, or just awkward looking.

This is an incredibly sensitive taboo-y topic.

Most people will not speak their true mind on this, not even if anonymous.

Sites like ugly or not are the most objective.

Tinder as well.

Here's a pic I posted kinda recently. http://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=16892&p=6529940#p6529940

Personally I don't like this picture cause I was pretty sunburned when I took it, and I have a scar on my arm from skateboarding.

I am a visual artist, i spend my entire time sensitised to things like visual balance and harmony. I am a guy, i am not gay, and i can clearly see you are a good looking man. You have low self confidence, and have spent perhaps too much time looking in the mirror, remember what we see when we look in the mirror, is not truth by any means, the way you perceive your features has probably over time become fused with negativity, and you are getting, as far as general perceptions of attractiveness goes, a 'false' reading. If you have not got comments of a positive nature, this is probably more due to what you project, your confidence, and your insecurity. These things are hard to combat, try not to look at your reflection too much, and try to take it from me, someone who spends their whole life looking closely, you are a good looking guy. Hopefully in time you can accept this, then compliments are more likely to come your way.

Work out.

Women love some (natural level) muscles - I found out this is very universal every time. And even those who deny it or claim to be totally indifferent about it - you'll hear them on some random day praising some random guy's fit body (ir celeb), it's pretty laughable really . No.One.of.Them in my surrounding ever didn't do this at some point, including my mom and sister, all, no exception.
Yes, they may choose someone who doesn't have them but that doesn't mean they don't like them.

You look pretty okay to me. Not ugly.

Post your photo anonymously on areyouhotornot.com and let strangers evaluate your looks.

I'm a female and I think you are good-looking. I was expecting something else when you mentioned the sunburn, but you barely look burnt? You have low self esteem issues. What you see about yourself is not what other people are seeing.

I'm going to give you an honest answer.


You're not terrible looking. You're 21 right? You definitely still have a cute boyish look to you. You're not completely ugly but you're no Brad Pitt either.

Now, as this is only a photo and not a video, I can't tell you the whole picture in your attractiveness. Maybe you appear special or have a weird voice so it may factor into your overall attractiveness to other people. Or maybe you have a weird look when you walk.

Physical attractiveness isn't all in the face, it's also in the body. Being tall and slim but not too skinny is much more attractive then being short and fat, that's just the truth of it. Tall slim guys will always be more attractive. You're slim already, I don't know how tall you are. If you're 5 ft 7 and under, then you're not going to be as attractive unless you have a really good looking face and really good body. That's just the truth. The ideal height in a man for attractiveness is around 5 ft 11 to 6 ft 2.



Actually look on the bright side of being physically unattractive. You know you're not going to impress women with your looks so you can make up for it with your personality and compatibility. Listen man, you have to work on your social skills and learn to connect with women and make them feel comfortable around you. Autism is no excuse to not actually try being friendly to women. The more you talk to women, the easier and comfortable it becomes. You don't even have to hit on them, just challenge yourself to say something and try to keep the conversation going.


Finally, don't go for the super hot supermodel women. Go for girls who have the same interests as you because this builds relationships faster.


I recommend you read this article as well. http://shynesssocialanxiety.com/shy-around-girls/

Some of the best looking people lack confidence. It is not about how you look, but about how you feel. Start from within. It doesn't matter how much a person works out or what clothes they wear etc., because without confidence it doesn't matter.

No one is ugly!

Society tells us that we have to look a certain way, make a certain amount of money, education level, race, ect. What happens when a super model grows old? Yourself worth can't be based on your looks. I know it is sooooo much easier said than done but hanging up little affirmations everywhere might help. Mine is "Why should I let someone label me?" and "I am beautiful because God made me." You can make anything up. It just has to be something that makes you feel good.

I love the saying "fake it till you make it." I've heard that works. People fake confidence and then one day they don't have to fake it anymore. Even famous people have used that trick.

I get down sometimes too, but calling yourself ugly or even thinking it, is so self defeating. Unfortunately, you will meet people that are going to be cruel to you so why start by doing their job for them. If you feel bad about yourself and then other people treat you bad... then who will be there to help you? Self-esteem is called self-esteem for a reason. This world is hard sometimes so treat yourself good. Do things that make you happy. Make the best of it.

You might look exotic in Asian and Middle Eastern countries, but where you live I guess you're just another regular-looking they see everyday in the street.

I'm not good looking, though I try. but starting to wonder what the point is. its expensive and hard. could just let myself go and die eating lots of food. fatty tasty food.

unless you're super good looking I wouldn't post on any hot or not or am I ugly sites. those are for women with model looks to get compliments. anyone else just gets hated on and told how ugly they are and such. tried it and its awful.

I can dig what you're saying, but I shouldn't I try talking to the "super hot model" anyways? Who's to say she doesn't have the same interests as me, I wouldn't know unless I talked to her.



I believe that "hot or not" websites should have never existed in the first place.

You're right about the "model" thing, FrankiDelano. Don't listen to them. Just because a person is physically attractive doesn't automatically mean that that person is also shallow. Generalizing people from their outward appearance is never the way to go. As the saying goes, don't judge a book by its cover. And yes I know that many people here were ostracized and bullied by the attractive popular people in high school, so that's why people feel threatened by attractive people. But not every attractive person is like that. Some were considered not that attractive and popular in school and then as they got older, they got more attractive.

But more importantly to everyone else, don't simply place a value on someone because of their appearance. Physical beauty fades. A good heart and brilliant mind outlasts beauty.