Dealing with "thirsty" guy at my school

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Theres this guy at my school who is has a reputation for being really "thirsty"(aka "desperate") for female attention. He will message >5 girls at a time, saying all this crap that he doesn't even mean, and most girls know it isn't true either. He wants a gf so bad, he will do anything to get one, and he will take anyone he can get. He will use ridiculous pick up lines to try and get girls. He plays games with them. If the girl rejects him or says she isn't interested in having a relationship, he will keep trying to get her to fall into his "thirst trap", as I call it. If they fall for his games, he will keep flirting with her for maybe a week, and then just drop her for someone else when he gets bored of her. I don't like what he is doing, it is mean to just pretend to like someone just for the sake of having a gf. He has a reputation around school, and it isn't a good one. I hear a lot of kids talk smack about him, but no one has called him out for what he is doing.

He has messaged me last year, and this year. He has messaged almost every single one of my friends and tried to play his games with them. One of my friends actually started to like him, she told me herself, and I don't want him to hurt her because he tends to move on to someone else after 1-2 weeks. I don't like seeing my friends get hurt, and I want to call him out for it. Any ideas on how to do that?

Tell your friend what you said here. Then, let her make her own choices.

If she's your friend, why not just tell her exactly what you wrote here? One thing that you said that doesn't make sense to me though: you say that he wants a girlfriend more than anything, but that any time someone starts to like him he dumps them. That doesn't quite make sense...if he is really that desperate for a girlfriend, why would he dump them when things seem to be going in that direction?

That can be a difficult situation to pull off well. Obviously warning people is good. The tricky part is how to call him out on it. Ganging up on somebody is not good but if this guy is going to try and take advantage of girls the word should be out there so as to protect anyone from being played. He sounds shallow and as if it is a game. Teenage boys can be VERY immature and obnoxious. o.x

To save time just get her to read this thread.

Well if nothing you say has any effect on your friend, at least she can only be hurt for a total of 1 - 2 weeks. If she's really going to fall in love with someone in only a week, the best thing for her life may be to learn a short sharp lesson?

Because he doesn't actually want a girlfriend but just a trophy girlfriend to show off to his friends.

If that's the case he would be picky about who he hits on.

I warned her about him, but she fell for it anyways. She is over him now, but there is a new problem. Now he won't leave me alone, even though I told him I wasn't interested. I talked to his friends, and they don't like what he does either. One of them, he has agreed to try and help me, but I want to confront him myself, and I don't really know how I should do it.

Exactly!