Do i have the right to be upset

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My long distance bf was suppose to come this weekend to see me. I was really looking forward to it since its a long weekend which means we will have more time together .However he has Monday to Friday job so he is only available on weekends .As for my job,i a work every second weekend.
I was suppose to work this weekend so I had to get someone else at work to switch shifts with. The lady is going to work my weekend for me and I am going to work the following weekend for her which is overnights. I coudnt find anyone else so I just accepted her overnights shifts even though I hate working nights .I just wanted to be free and spend time with my bf .However, my bf texted me last night and told me that he is not coming anymore because he had a big fight with his mom and he is really mad and he is not in the mood anymore. He told me that he is sorry and ask me to understand.
I am crushed because for one, i had to go through trouble and inconvenience of switching my shifts from work with someone so I can see him.Since I already signed the approval forms ,I cant really go back to the lady and say never mind lets switch back the shifts.I now have to work overnights shifts for nothing which is going to be hard since I cant sleep well during the day. I told him all this and he didn't respond to my texts.I even tried calling him to see if i can convince him to still come to no avail.
I just feel like his excuse is weak for not coming to see me .I cant see him next weekend since I have to work overnight shifts for the lady from work and the following weekend after is my regular weekend to work. We don`t get to see each other often because of the distance and conflicting schedules Is he lying to me? because he had a fight with his mom and is mad? Why wouldn't he want to get out of there and spend time with me and not be around her?

You're right to be upset about it. This did seem very inconsiderate regardless of what happened there. Whether he is lying or not is something noone knows

O wow, that's a douche move. I wouldn't end a relationship because of it, but he really needs to explain himself and make it up to you. My boyfriend (AS) can also be a bit rude at times, especially when he is tired because of work or social stuff. But he explains how he feels and we try to do something together when he's more relaxed. I don't know if your bf has AS too, but if he does: give him a few days rest and then explain how you went to lengths to have a fun weekend and how it hurt you that he just called it of without explanation or an apology. It may be that his senses are just overloaded (excitement for this weekend, anger because of his mom, tiredness, guilt). Don't call him yet, but give him some time. Then ask him about it. Aspergers's may cause rude behaviour, but it is never an excuse for rude behaviour. He hurt you, and when you explain how and why, he'll probably see that. Sorry about your weekend