Hello fellow aspies and inbeweens, I need your help with a particularly sticky situation.
I`m seeing a guy who is a bit further up the spectrum than me. He lives abut 8 hours from me in a different country, He has been kicked out of his home by his mother and had quite a few issues. He does however have an apartment provided by the commune, and will hopefully receive funding for furniture by the end of the month.
My prime concern is that in trying to help I have gotten myself in to a bit of financial problems and 1200$ in debt.
(wich I can pay off)
However I am forced to cancel my yearly pilgrimage (Details are to numerous and complicated to elaborate on) It is the only holiday I really celebrate and to an average person it can be compared to canceling Christmas, Easter, New years, Hanuka, ID, Elvis's birthday or whom ever deity you might worship.
I`m afraid that my mental health will take a significant blow and I will relapse back in to a serious depression, self harm and possibly suicidal behavior.
He has issues when it comes to anxiety and executive functioning and is unable to fend for himself let alone take car of his echonomy. He also has minor drug and alcohol problems and is at times socially awkward, although he has improved greatly in that department.
There is also the issue of keeping my parents from finding out about this affair, as I genuinely fear for my own lif should they ever discover.
To further complicate things he, or should I say, she is also male to female transgender.
Rationally this would be a clear case of DTMFA (dump the mofo already), However I`ve fallen hopelessly in love and rather enjoy his/hers company and emotional support.
So I implore you please, do you have any advice on how to help him/her along and stop him/her form dragging me down too?
24 Jun 2015, 1:45 pm
