Jamesy
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21 Mar 2017, 4:20 pm
I have bulked up a noticble amount compared to a year ago although I am still in the healthy weight zone for my height of 5ft7.
My parents in the past have advised me against getting more muscular because it tends to make you look 'shorter'. I am quite a moody aggressive person if I don't get my own way and that combined with a muscular body can make me seem threatening?
More to the point when I now go out to bars less women than before approach me and talk to me since I have put on muscle or they outright ignore me. Oddly though women do notice me more out and about in town during the daytime.
Do you think maybe I should aim to lean down a bit? 
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21 Mar 2017, 11:04 pm
My parents in the past have advised me against getting more muscular because it tends to make you look 'shorter'. I am quite a moody aggressive person if I don't get my own way and that combined with a muscular body can make me seem threatening?
More to the point when I now go out to bars less women than before approach me and talk to me since I have put on muscle or they outright ignore me. Oddly though women do notice me more out and about in town during the daytime.
Do you think maybe I should aim to lean down a bit?
It's really up to you. There's a misconception among the PUA crowd that the more muscle the better, but most women don't seem to want body builders, and after a certain point, muscle won't make up for lack of social skills.
22 Mar 2017, 6:08 am
Jamesy
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22 Mar 2017, 2:29 pm
My parents in the past have advised me against getting more muscular because it tends to make you look 'shorter'. I am quite a moody aggressive person if I don't get my own way and that combined with a muscular body can make me seem threatening?
More to the point when I now go out to bars less women than before approach me and talk to me since I have put on muscle or they outright ignore me. Oddly though women do notice me more out and about in town during the daytime.
Do you think maybe I should aim to lean down a bit?
It's really up to you. There's a misconception among the PUA crowd that the more muscle the better, but most women don't seem to want body builders, and after a certain point, muscle won't make up for lack of social skills.
I have seen women show interest in bulky guys and infact prefer them over skinny men
22 Mar 2017, 2:32 pm
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Jamesy
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22 Mar 2017, 3:25 pm
That in combination with a noticeably muscular build...certainly could seem threatening, particularly to women. Perhaps your moody aggression doesn't seem quite so threatening when you're less muscular. However not so sure losing muscle is the solution here....why not work on your moodiness and aggression?
Neither of those are traits that are good for a relationship regardless of if you're more muscular or less muscular.
My brother said to me if you were very bulky you would look like a freak because you have not got the confidence to pull of that kind of look.
Personally I think the women gave this guys body the most votes because he was the tallest
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