I am so confused :( why did he do this?!

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So,
Well,
I thought my crush liked me and so did everyone else. He lives in America and I live in England but we plan to meet. He's spoken about holding hands with me,
He said I'm his princess and we even have nicknames for each other. He remembers lots of things about me and we are going to Skype together and watch a movie he wants to show me,
However I asked him if he would go on a date with me maybe when I go to America and he said " as friends, but I don't feel romantically to you, but as friends sure"

Why would he do that?
He also asked me if I would ever take a bath NAKED with him, and I said yes. I wouldn't say that to just anyone, and he said we could even cuddle...I don't understand what's going on...but my heart is so broken. He was so perfect and I don't meet guys like him here... Do you think he's afraid ? Or something? He's 18 and I'm nearly 17 what do j do?

I would just find someone in real life, odds that was going to work out or even happen were slim anyway. He was probabaly just having fun by fantasizing and role playing reality while online with you.

Anyways just ask him... Worst that can happen is he tells you the truth.

Because he can?

Long distance relationships are often a mess, especially if you know him online and start the romance before meeting for real. And even more if the two live so far from each other and can meet very rarely.
Why would you have a naked bath with him if he doesn't feel romantically for you?
Imho you should know someone better in real life before considering such things. Be careful, you might get hurt.

I had a lady do the same to me.

like someone said to some people its just a fun game they can play. see how attached they can get another person to them. called catfishing. some of thise go as far as to get the other person to give them money and things, but for others its just fun game to play with someones feelings.

I on the other hand like you it sounds, can fall in love with someone over the internet. I saved up money to go visit her. that's when she started not talking to me as much and then just stopped all together. it ws just a game to her until it looked like it'd be real, then its not fun to them anymore.

hugs.

there's some people where a long distant relationship worked out though, so its not all hopeless, but yeah it probably is mostly never going to work out. I've loved two women who were far away. something i said I wouldn't do after the first, but can't control my heart.

sounds like he wasn't interested in you for the right reasons anyways if he wouldn't even go on a date with you.

Because he can.. and for no other reason. He's just a "crush" and you don't even know him. Like any relationship of extreme distance (especially at your age) someone probably found someone locally and forgot you existed. It's best not to put all your eggs in 1 basket over someone you don't know very well across the world.

Online relationships can be tough.

I had an 'online relationship' but it was so terrible i do not consider it a relationship and never will.

I have never had a relationship, I am not counting the online one.

They were absolutely crazy. Suffered from anxiety, paranoia, etc.

I know I have aspergers so it seems hypocritical of me to judge someone with these things but they really were bad.

They were just creepy, posessive, clingy, always had to know what I was doing, etc. If I ever went just a day without checing messages they would assume the relationship is over, become angry, mad, etc.

Please forget online relationships,Taisanow12, they just aren't worth it.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope like me you are from now on less eager about online relationships.

Online relationships aren't a lock to fail like some of us are saying, it just takes 2 people who really know each other and communicate real well to work. I know several people who've had successful ones and are still together after years, you just can't rush into those things. Typically, people who rush into a relationship with someone across the world have these "paranoid" and "anxiety" issues you claim, and just need their self-esteem issues soothed. But don't count them out entirely.