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13 Jul 2015, 3:36 pm

so i asked a girl out for the first time at my work as ive mentioned in previous thread for some background information. So we recently arent working in the same place so we both visit each other . she mainly talks about her problems finding work etc. personally i dont think shes in a very good situation atm with the death of a family member . so i asked her if she would like to for a drink after work i was blushing and really nervous she aggreed and i told her to meet me at my kiosk after. Small talk doesnt come easy to me and we got to the local pub we talked about other work colleagues holidays weve been on our living arrangements. So when it got late i asked if she wanted another drink and she said she was alright i said i enjoyed it and id like to meet up sometime could i have her number . she said i dont see you romantically and never got her number i hugged her and we went our separate ways . she was twirling her hair and there was lots of awkward silences and tended to look down when she had nothing to say.



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13 Jul 2015, 3:46 pm

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she was twirling her hair and there was lots of awkward silences and tended to look down when she had nothing to say.


Don't ever read too much into such body behaviors and getting your hopes high, because they can mean anything, really.

It's what she told you that matters.



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13 Jul 2015, 9:02 pm

I'm glad you took this step.

Even if this doesn't work out, I believe this will provide you with confidence in the future.

It wasn't so bad, right?

PS: I used to be TERRIFIED of asking out girls.



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14 Jul 2015, 11:49 am

Was scary no doubt as ive never asked a girl out in person i'm 20 and have learned that i need to come out of my comfort zone more.
I agree it has boosted my confidence when i asked her got a nice warm feeling inside . regret not doing it sooner as she was more sexual/flirty in the past .won't see her till august so i hope theres no awkwardness guess i'm stuck in the friendzone.



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14 Jul 2015, 3:39 pm

You probably got put into the friend zone buddy.

R.I.P


You have to show a girl you're interested in her early on and flirt with her to let her know you're interested in being more then friends. There also has to be some sexual chemistry between you two. If you're being shy and reserved and not flirting with her, you will most likely be put into the friend zone of which there is no return. If you're a shy guy like me, this is very hard to do. You're college age and most women this age arne't very forgiving of shy non-initiative guys.

If you have sh***y 1 on 1 skills and flirting skills, and you're very shy like I am, you'll be having a hard time at your age. What comes naturally to most guys doesn't come naturally to aspie guys unfortunately



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14 Jul 2015, 5:15 pm

accountinglad wrote:
Was scary no doubt as ive never asked a girl out in person i'm 20 and have learned that i need to come out of my comfort zone more.
I agree it has boosted my confidence when i asked her got a nice warm feeling inside . regret not doing it sooner as she was more sexual/flirty in the past .won't see her till august so i hope theres no awkwardness guess i'm stuck in the friendzone.


Bummer, but at least she was forthright about her feelings towards you. Anyways, great job on taking that risk, even when it felt nerve-racking yet exhilarating. Who knows...maybe if you become good friends with her, she might introduce you to some of her single friends :wink:


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14 Jul 2015, 8:05 pm

darkphantomx1 wrote:
You probably got put into the friend zone buddy.

R.I.P


You have to show a girl you're interested in her early on and flirt with her to let her know you're interested in being more then friends. There also has to be some sexual chemistry between you two. If you're being shy and reserved and not flirting with her, you will most likely be put into the friend zone of which there is no return. If you're a shy guy like me, this is very hard to do. You're college age and most women this age arne't very forgiving of shy non-initiative guys.

If you have sh***y 1 on 1 skills and flirting skills, and you're very shy like I am, you'll be having a hard time at your age. What comes naturally to most guys doesn't come naturally to aspie guys unfortunately


thought it best to be friends for a few years first. many here say thats the only successful way to get a relationship.