WHAT ARE YOUR DEAL BREAKERS WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS?

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15 Jul 2015, 3:24 am

Me first.

I know myself and pretty much what I can and can't live with. So here's my list:

1) Non smoker.
2) Religious or Agnostic
3) Same amount of income as me
4) No kids
5) Social or no drinker
6) Can't be divorced more than once

The probability of me never getting married is pretty high, but I know if I accepted one of the "deal breakers" above, I'd be most likely miserable and end in a divorce. I've thought about this for a long time now and I have reasons for everything on "the list". I've also accepted that I will probably be alone and I worry about that, but I don't really know what to do about it. It's more important to me not have a divorce. I think I know myself too well and if I get into a bad marriage, I will just stay in it and be miserable. Anyway, what are your deal breakers in a relationship?


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15 Jul 2015, 3:33 am

1. Must be physically fit enough to drive a car with a manual gearbox.
2. Must like me.

That's it.



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15 Jul 2015, 3:50 am

314pe wrote:
1. Must be physically fit enough to drive a car with a manual gearbox.
2. Must like me.

That's it.


I do a lot of exercise, but me and a manual transmission - not a good match. I still remember when one of my guy friends tried to teach me and we were on this hill stopped at a stop sign. He told me to go and that car shot off like a freaking rocket! Thank the Lord it did because a car was coming at us and missed us by inches. I do not trust myself with a manual transmission. Nope.


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15 Jul 2015, 4:12 am

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15 Jul 2015, 4:14 am

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3) Same amount of income as me


I guess you are a female.

So I bet on all my money that you mean "same or less of income as me".



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15 Jul 2015, 4:19 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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3) Same amount of income as me


I guess you are a female.

So I bet on all my money that you mean "same or less of income as me".


Same or more than me, actually.


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15 Jul 2015, 4:21 am

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3) Same amount of income as me


I guess you are a female.

So I bet on all my money that you mean "same or less of income as me".


How much "all of your money" did I win?


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15 Jul 2015, 4:23 am

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3) Same amount of income as me


I guess you are a female.

So I bet on all my money that you mean "same or less of income as me".


Same or more than me, actually.



I am shocked. :lol:



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15 Jul 2015, 4:24 am

nurseangela wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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3) Same amount of income as me


I guess you are a female.

So I bet on all my money that you mean "same or less of income as me".


How much "all of your money" did I win?



Ahhh so that's why.... nope, I am not shocked anymore; you are a typical woman :lol:.

I lied, you won't see a penny.



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15 Jul 2015, 4:28 am

nurseangela wrote:
I do a lot of exercise, but me and a manual transmission - not a good match. I still remember when one of my guy friends tried to teach me and we were on this hill stopped at a stop sign. He told me to go and that car shot off like a freaking rocket! Thank the Lord it did because a car was coming at us and missed us by inches. I do not trust myself with a manual transmission. Nope.

You didn't have proper formal training. I'm ok with people who don't know how to drive or drive bad.



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15 Jul 2015, 4:30 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
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3) Same amount of income as me


I guess you are a female.

So I bet on all my money that you mean "same or less of income as me".


Same or more than me, actually.



I am shocked. :lol:


No way,dude! That was a fair bet you made and I just happen to be a gambling woman - just for tonight anyway. :wink:


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15 Jul 2015, 4:33 am

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nurseangela wrote:
I do a lot of exercise, but me and a manual transmission - not a good match. I still remember when one of my guy friends tried to teach me and we were on this hill stopped at a stop sign. He told me to go and that car shot off like a freaking rocket! Thank the Lord it did because a car was coming at us and missed us by inches. I do not trust myself with a manual transmission. Nope.

You didn't have proper formal training. I'm ok with people who don't know how to drive or drive bad.


Well I sure do drive bad with a manual. Now automatic is another story. I've never had an accident with an automatic except where an Act Of God was in the way - like a snow bank or a garage door. So I'm good to go with an automatic. :D


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15 Jul 2015, 4:36 am

nurseangela wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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3) Same amount of income as me


I guess you are a female.

So I bet on all my money that you mean "same or less of income as me".


Same or more than me, actually.



I am shocked. :lol:


No way,dude! That was a fair bet you made and I just happen to be a gambling woman - just for tonight anyway. :wink:



You lied about your preference to win the bet (because I am sure you won't take a man with less income and as you clearly showed it earlier) so it's only fair to lie to you on the bet.



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15 Jul 2015, 4:44 am

nurseangela wrote:
Me first.

I know myself and pretty much what I can and can't live with. So here's my list:

1) Non smoker.
2) Religious or Agnostic
3) Same amount of income as me
4) No kids
5) Social or no drinker
6) Can't be divorced more than once

The probability of me never getting married is pretty high, but I know if I accepted one of the "deal breakers" above, I'd be most likely miserable and end in a divorce. I've thought about this for a long time now and I have reasons for everything on "the list". I've also accepted that I will probably be alone and I worry about that, but I don't really know what to do about it. It's more important to me not have a divorce. I think I know myself too well and if I get into a bad marriage, I will just stay in it and be miserable. Anyway, what are your deal breakers in a relationship?


The probability of you never getting married is not only high, but it is as high as the moon.

"Religious or Agnostic" ?

Two opposing deal-breakers .

"Can't be divorced more than once"

Playing ping pong, eh? You wanna leech half his wealth several times? :lol:


Go get a cat.



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15 Jul 2015, 4:54 am

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Well I sure do drive bad with a manual. Now automatic is another story. I've never had an accident with an automatic except where an Act Of God was in the way - like a snow bank or a garage door. So I'm good to go with an automatic. :D

Where I'm from, almost all cars are manual. I'm already a permanent designated driver for my friends. I don't want to be a designated driver for my potential future family too.

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The probability of you never getting married is not only high, but it is as high as the moon.

That's harsh.



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15 Jul 2015, 4:56 am

314pe wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
Well I sure do drive bad with a manual. Now automatic is another story. I've never had an accident with an automatic except where an Act Of God was in the way - like a snow bank or a garage door. So I'm good to go with an automatic. :D

Where I'm from, almost all cars are manual. I'm already a permanent designated driver for my friends. I don't want to be a designated driver for my potential future family too.

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The probability of you never getting married is not only high, but it is as high as the moon.

That's harsh.


Same for me.